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7 Signs of a Female Narcissist

Recognize These Signs In A Woman You Know Is A Total Narcissist

Som Dutt ☯
Psychology Simplified
9 min readJun 3, 2024


7 Signs of a Female Narcissist-by “Som Dutt” on Medium
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Internet, certain websites such as Onlyfans, and social media platform apps such as Tinder, Bumble, Tik Tok, and Instagram have given wings to many girls’ and women’s hidden narcissistic tendencies.

There are many websites where women charge men just for talking and nude shows. But we think that these women do this for only money. But there are some hidden psychological factors such as narcissistic tendencies that make such women do and behave in certain ways.

Onlyfans and Instagram reels are just examples of expressing narcissistic tendencies. In many cases, Instagram functions as a platform for soft porn for such females.

In our daily life, we meet many women who are narcissists but try to hide this from people. But their body language and behavior reveal it all.

The only difference is some female narcissists are covert and they try to control their narcissist tendencies as much as they can so that others cannot see them too often.

One thing that is common among all female narcissists is that they try to show off too much. They have a strong urge to seek attention and external validation. They seek attention more than other typical women.

They try to use social media and their online presence to control others to show and express themselves better than others.

In this article, we will give you the 7 signs to spot and understand narcissistic behavior in a woman better. This can also help you not to fall in love with a manipulative narcissistic woman. By understanding her traits you can save yourself from further mental harm.

1. She Often Shows Arrogance, Attitudes, Or Haughty Behaviors

If you know a woman who often shows signs of arrogance, attitude, and haughty behaviors for no reason, she might be a narcissist. She might talk and behave like the most important person in the group, family, and team.

“Concerning the narcissist- after having been so seemingly incredibly loving and gentle, compassionate and caring- it would be like a light switch had suddenly been turned off and “all of a sudden” they simply did not care. They turned into a cold person, someone without love, compassion, empathy or regard for the subject’s feelings what so ever. It’s like they suddenly and literally stopped being human.”
― Jacqueline Servantess

For example, she tries to show off her Instagram life. She tries to misbehave with her followers and colleagues. She posts on social media too often.

She will write such captions in her posts,

“I live a life most can only dream of.”

If you ever try to talk to her for the first time, you will see overconfidence in her attitude. She will try to show bossiness. She will also try to dominate all the decisions of the family.

2. She Is Very Sensitivity To Criticism

Her idea of living life is to brag about her achievements. But she cannot take it when people do not agree with her decisions and opinions.

“You know that unforgivable lie they tell about you. You may struggle with this one because you know, they know the truth. You are a good parent, but the lie must be implanted for them to win. It’s a strategy and they don’t care what it does to you or the kids because they have no empathy. It comes down to, they simply do not care about anyone but themselves. They must win.”
― Tracy A. Malone

She will block you on social media when you try to correct and criticize her. She is not open to having healthy arguments. Her replies are often mean. She is an expert in deleting comments on her posts.

She gets mad or upset when someone says she has done something wrong. She is only interested in listening to compliments. She loves people who boost her ego.

3. She Is Expert In Gaslighting

A female narcissist is an expert in twisting the truths of others. She tries her best to question you about your memory and decision-making. Even if she has done something wrong in the past, she tries to deny it.

“The conscious and intelligent manipulation of the organized habits and opinions of the masses is an important element in democratic society. Those who manipulate this unseen mechanism of society constitute an invisible government which is the true ruling power of our country. …We are governed, our minds are molded, our tastes formed, our ideas suggested, largely by men we have never heard of. This is a logical result of the way in which our democratic society is organized. Vast numbers of human beings must cooperate in this manner if they are to live together as a smoothly functioning society. …In almost every act of our daily lives, whether in the sphere of politics or business, in our social conduct or our ethical thinking, we are dominated by the relatively small number of persons…who understand the mental processes and social patterns of the masses. It is they who pull the wires which control the public mind.”
― Edward Bernays, Propaganda

She tries to change up the stories in her favor to win the arguments. She wants to shake your confidence in your beliefs. She is an expert in blaming others when things go wrong and does not favor her.

She tries to hide things from others so that she can lie about what happened. She uses gaslighting frequently to have control over her husband or boyfriend.

4. She Is Envy Of Others Or Belief That Others Are Envious Of Her

She has a habit of comparing her beauty with other women. She also compares her achievements with others. She gets jealous when other women get promoted in her company.

“I’ve been doing this a long time- manipulating people to get my way. That’s why you think you love me. Because I’ve broken you down and built you back up to believe it. It wasn’t an accident. Once you leave this behind….. you’ll see that. -Caleb”
― CJ Roberts, Seduced in the Dark

She is also an expert in giving subtle negative comments. If someone achieves something, she comments smartly to insult her.

She is also insecure about her capabilities. Therefore she puts extra effort into her makeup when she has to attend some special events. She loves to play the victim. You must have heard from her something similar like,

“Other people are jealous of me, they do not want me to grow”

She easily gets upset by the success of others. She does not feel good when someone is happier than her.

She cannot easily give compliments to others. Her compliments can consist of some critical comments too.

“Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused — pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So she short-circuits them and goes numb. For many children, any expression of feelings, even a single tear, is cause for more severe abuse. Again, the only recourse is to shut down. Feelings go underground.”
― Laura Davis, Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child

5. She Believes That She’s Special And She Only Associates Herself With High-status People

A female narcissist thinks very highly about herself. She expects everyone else to give her special treatment. She is very selective in making friends. She only tries to become the friend of rich, powerful, and famous people.

“The problem with today’s world is that everyone believes they have the right to express their opinion AND have others listen to it.

The correct statement of individual rights is that everyone has the right to an opinion, but crucially, that opinion can be roundly ignored and even made fun of, particularly if it is demonstrably nonsense!”
― Brian Cox

She tries to mention famous and rich people in her conversations to raise her status so that others know she is a friend of them or they know her. She cannot be a friend of broke people.

In parties, events, and clubs, she tries to ignore people she thinks are not of her level. She thinks that her high-status circles elevate her status. She uses rich and powerful people to get ahead in life and business.

6. She Shows The Signs Of Exploitative Behavior

She is a master manipulator. She is an expert in getting what she wants. She tries her best to take advantage of others without worrying much about fairness and legal consequences.

“Even though friends say they are interested in your life, they never really want to talk about you as much as you want them to.”
― Charise Mericle Harper

She is greedy, therefore she wants more and more of everything no matter how much currently she has.

Whenever she meets someone rich, famous, and powerful she smarty asks for favors but she rarely returns the favors.

She loves to break rules to get what she wants. She prioritizes her needs and desires over others.

7. She Shows The Excessive Need For Admiration

She has this strong instinct of need for admiration. She surrounds herself with the people who only talk good about her.

“Narcissistic personality disorder is named for Narcissus, from Greek mythology, who fell in love with his own reflection. Freud used the term to describe persons who were self-absorbed, and psychoanalysts have focused on the narcissist’s need to bolster his or her self-esteem through grandiose fantasy, exaggerated ambition, exhibitionism, and feelings of entitlement.”
― Donald W. Black

She wants to know how good she looks at the party or event. She wants people should praise her and all eyes should be on her wherever she goes.

She fishes compliments by saying negative about her looks so that others can correct her and tell her how beautiful she looks. She gets mad, if people are not paying attention to her looks and presence. She cannot accept being ignored.

She is very active on social media like Instagram. She consistently posts her carefully curated pictures and reels on Instagram. She only wants people to know her good side.

“Being a control freak is a weakness, not a strength. If you can’t allow others to shine, you’re exhibiting signs of narcissism and showing a lack of self-confidence. It is isolation through ego.”
― Stewart Stafford

She fishes for comments and likes. Her Instagram feed is mostly about her looks and selfies. Her posts show luxury places, fancy meals, and expensive items suggesting this is her everyday life.

Her captions are like:

“Do you like this outfit on me?”

“Feeling not so pretty today”

She is just hoping for compliments and sympathy.

She constantly uploads stories but she never or rarely likes and comments on others post.

“In a narcissist’s world, you are not their one and only. You are an extension of that person and last place in their mind, while they secure back up narcissistic supply.”
― Shannon L. Alder



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Psychology Simplified

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