4 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself So You Can Wake Up To What Limits You

Lucy Crisetig
Oct 16, 2019 · 4 min read

This world is in crisis. We hear it everywhere. Whether you look at climate change, political situations or mental health, “something’s gotta give” (to quote an old Marilyn Monroe film).

First of all, let’s look at the meaning of the word ‘crisis’. Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines it as: “an unstable or crucial time or state of affairs in which a decisive change is impending.”

As humans, we’ve been shining examples of holding onto the status quo leading to our own detriment.

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” — Leo Tolstoy

It can feel pretty scary when we think of changing the way our world runs because we don’t know the outcome. That goes for the world around us as well as the world within us.

However, what if big change can happen outside us as a result of making small incremental shifts within our own psyche?

Limiting beliefs are concepts we’ve come to accept as true, without question, even when they’re not working for us anymore.

How do you know they don’t work?

If a way of thinking or being is not bringing you some sense of flow, lightness, or joy then it could be because the belief behind it is flawed for you in some way.

Questioning your beliefs and realigning the ones you find don’t work, to something more true for you can help make incremental shifts and collaboratively create solutions for the issues causing chaos in your life and on our planet.

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Your limiting beliefs are tucked away in your subconscious. So that makes them a challenge to track down. You’re probably so identified with some of them you don’t even realize they’re there.

In this article, I share one of my previous limiting beliefs.

The subconscious is like a big cavernous abyss housing all your habitual beliefs and behaviours under the guise of keeping you safe — such an irony. Maybe they did keep you feeling safe for the time frame you adopted them, yet once they begin to limit your joy, they require questioning.

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” — Albert Einstein

Layer 1: You start driving and you do follow the rules to be a really good driver. (Okay, this may be a stretch but stick with me on this metaphor in principle, even if you’ve experienced otherwise in reality. I think we can agree this is the intent.) Someone made the rules to protect you for your own and others’ wellbeing.

Layer 2: You move forward in your driving career and begin to question things. Why is the speed limit set where it is? Who set these limits? When were they set? You might find it was determined to be the safest for control of the vehicle in relation to the road design, etc. Thereby, keeping everyone safe.

Layer 3: Soon after, you begin to understand that your car handles the same road differently than other types of cars. Maybe you yourself feel more comfortable and safer going slightly slower or faster than the speed limit on certain roads in certain situations.

Now you’re faced with a challenge. Do you change your belief according to your new revelations or do you hold on tight to your belief of staying right at the set speed limit even though you now have an expanded view?

I mean, you could really upset some people by following your own truth.

Yet, if you hold on tight to your belief, you could upset yourself and jeopardize your own wellbeing.

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Ask yourself these 4 questions:

  1. What is your belief? (Be clear and without judgment.)
  2. What are your values in regard to this? (How important to you are the pros and cons to keeping this belief in tact?)
  3. What are you gaining from holding onto this belief? (What are the hidden benefits to you?)
  4. Is it part of your identity to keep this view? (Do you consider yourself the person who always keeps to the speed limit?)

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” — Rumi

If a belief comes up that limits you, makes you feel confined in some way, or just not true for you anymore, you’re body will feel uncomfortable in some way. Maybe a knot in your gut, pressure in your lower abdomen, heaviness in your heart. Whatever it is, pay attention.

Your body speaks volumes.

If the world outside you seems chaotic and busy, check in with your inner world. Unearth the stuff in there that doesn’t belong any longer to reveal a truer you.

Excavate your inner world and witness freedom in your outer world.

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Lucy Crisetig

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Creative Mindfulness Coach/Consultant; Writer; “Finding Sofia” fiction; Artist; Free E-booklet “Generate Your Inner Genius”; www.lucycrisetig.com -Be empowered

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