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A Simple Guide To Choosing The Right People
Six tips built from 10,000+ interactions
It has taken me ten years, thirty countries, and ten thousand human interactions with people all over the world to realize one simple, time-saving truth:
The people you choose to spend time with define you, whether you like it or not.
I wish it weren't true, but it is.
You're not the average of the five people you spend the most time with; you're the average of everyone you spend time with.
The people around you define what is acceptable. If everyone in your circle is overweight, smoking, and depressed, guess what? They're defining what is acceptable behavior to you. You have no better frame of reference. You need to get out of there ASAP!
In a decade of traveling, I've had to learn how to filter people very quickly. When you live on the road, sometimes you have to make a snap decision, with the result deciding if you sleep in a safe bed or get robbed.
Traveling the world is the perfect venue to learn how to do this at scale. If you choose the wrong people on the road, you might spend a few uncomfortable days traveling with them before never seeing them again.
