Audre Lorde Completely Changed How I Relate to Pleasure and Sex
These revolutionary ideas can rewire how you think about the erotic.
When my tantra teacher read out a sentence, I didn’t anticipate how much the words would influence my life.
It was last August, and the sentence was one of those where you need to put in some mental effort to get it. I didn’t.
My brain was fogged from Vienna’s summer heat, and I only managed to save a link in my read-later app.
A week afterward, I read the entire essay. Again. And again. I have read it ten times since. And I discover new layers of meaning every single time.
Audre Lorde’s ‘Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power’ is one of those timeless essays with the power to change you. Below are some of her ideas that have transformed how I relate to pleasure and sex.
Tapping Into The Most Underrated Source of Power
I remember the moment I started to fear the yes within myself.
It was a week before I turned 13, in the bedroom of my then-best friend. We stroked our skin, and I felt an until-then-unknown heat arising from deep within.
