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Bend Reality by Bringing the Change You Want to See in the World

Not many feelings will beat the pleasure of outperforming ourselves.

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You wouldn’t see me writing with sheer confidence if I didn’t conquer my fear of publishing the first blog four years ago.

What started as a requirement for an online course for my career growth transformed into a pursuit that grooves my soul nonstop.

I stuck with the complainer mindset when I couldn’t fix things that didn’t go my way. But once I learned that life throws more problems at the problem-solvers, the win-win framework motivated me to think with a solution-driven approach.

Here are three ways to bend reality by bringing positive change with a solution-driven mindset.

Be a part of the elite club because most people stay stuck in the complainer mindset for an extended period.

#1. Self-awareness is just the tip of the iceberg.

In the book The Defining Decade by Meg Jay, there is a whole chapter dedicated to the power of self-awareness. It shows how being true to ourselves helps us understand our life goals better.

Self-awareness ignites brutal honesty to embrace responsibility for everything in your life.

When you adopt the leader attitude to get control of your time and the challenges that tag along as a packaged deal, you shift your mindset from working for shallow gains to manifesting your dreams.

The struggle is what makes your journey worth every breath. Once you go from a chronic complainer mindset to a lifelong problem-solver attitude, there is no turning back.

#2. Dreams create purpose.

Here is a quote from Neil Gaiman that inspires me to show up even on the worst days:

“Go, and make interesting mistakes, make amazing mistakes, make glorious and fantastic mistakes. Break rules. Leave the world more interesting for your being here.”

It feels inspiring to put out something in the world that never existed. When your work inspires someone to overcome even the tiniest amount of fear, the shared sense of purpose makes us unstoppable. I write because it helps the reader as much as it helps me.

In my first 100-day writing streak, I powered through only to max out the compound effect of consistency. It tested my patience and persistence to a whole new level.

But when readers like you, my college folks and coworkers showed appreciation for my writing, it made me feel like a million bucks.

Waking up with a purpose is an indescribable feeling. It is ASMR, but for the soul.

#3. Your future self is always correct. Weirdly.

I adopted the idea of blindly trusting the advice of my future self when my therapist did a visualisation experiment in 2019 when I was struggling with mental health issues.

He told me to imagine my 5-year-old self, hold my younger self’s hand, caress his oily head and advise him to trust his gut because no one regrets betting on themselves. We regret not starting earlier, even before we are ready.

Even after six months of my therapy sessions, the lessons I learned are timeless, and I still motivate my friends the same way I do for myself.

When someone asks for fitness advice, time management tips or when they are stuck with the option of several productivity hacks, I ask them to look at it from a long-term perspective about aligning with their lifestyle choice, and the answer surfaces automatically.

Ask your future self for advice whenever you are stuck on a roadblock that fries all your neurons. You’ll never go wrong.

Closing thoughts

I didn’t know I wanted to be a writer before I overcame my fear four years ago. The same story is true for starting my newsletter in 2021, finishing two 100-day fitness streaks, and practising daily meditation. Even quitting cigarettes after three years of toxic pleasure or any activity that we know is rewarding in the long term but feels challenging to start.

The starting part will always be tricky because the brain prefers the path of least resistance. Acknowledging that the brain prioritises safety over happiness is the key to training your mind for persistence and resilience.

Once you arm your mind to become adaptable and open to new experiences, you’ll be surprised at how much potential it can deliver.

Think about it. Your mind has brought you over two decades with immense courage and grit, surviving a global financial crisis and one pandemic.

Take care of your mind, stretch its capabilities and see it accomplish remarkable feats that surprise the crap out of you in a good way.

Here is a recap for your memory:

  1. Self-awareness is just the start of a meaningful life.
  2. Dreams create purpose.
  3. Trust your future self with zero regrets.

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Sanjeev is a mentor, writer, and fitness enthusiast from India. He writes about lifelong learning, personal growth, and positive psychology. When he’s not engaging with students in solving their doubts or busy writing, he’s sweating either in a workout, vlogging or playing with his cat, Jim. You can also find him on Instagram and Twitter.



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Sanjeev Yadav

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