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Do You Want To Hate Your Partner? Change Who You Are for Them
When doing things for your partner feels like a sacrifice, it’s a matter of time before you resent them.
“So, how’s everything going with Stevie?” I asked Sanders, one of my long-time friends. He was just getting into a relationship with a beautiful girl who had been driving him crazy for months, and things were finally working out, or so I thought.
“Everything is going well, except for one thing,” he replied. “I feel like I don’t have time for myself anymore.”
“What do you mean?” I asked, curious.
“She is extremely demanding. We have to be in contact practically 24 hours a day. She calls me at random hours for nothing important, just to talk. Sometimes, I’m training or reading, but she needs to tell me details about something that happened in her day, and I have to drop everything I’m doing to listen. I no longer have weekends off because she always wants to go out. I didn’t know that being in a relationship was like losing who you were when you were single.”
His words hit me hard because I had been there before. And I know the result of doing it without putting a stop to your partner. You will slowly erase your identity piece by piece until you wake up one day and…
