Diving Into The Deep End
When I first started transitioning from daydreaming to goal-setting, I felt like I’d fallen into quicksand. I was just overwhelmed: too many goals, and no strategy. I felt like a drowning person, flailing around. Too soon, the time I’d set aside for achieving my goals, an hour or so each day, was gone and I had very little to show for it. What was going on? This was my time to push ahead, to succeed. Why was I having so much trouble getting started?
I felt lost and hopelessly inadequate. Clearly, I was just a loser. Other people could succeed, but it was beyond me. After a while, I gave up and went back to working on other people’s agendas, helping my writing clients achieve their goals.
There Must Be A Better Way
Months went by, before I got up enough courage to try again. By now I’d identified the real problem was negative thinking. I didn’t think I could do it, so my subconscious was nodding in agreement and proving me right.
I started looking for a practical solution to negative thinking. I found Leslie Householder’s Stickman video, and read her book The Jackrabbit Factor. And I had an idea: what if I could change my thoughts for just a few seconds, once a day? That seemed like an achievable goal. I gave it a try.
I wrote down a positive thought, a very simple one: “I can.”
Remember The One That Feeds You
Let it sink in for 17 seconds. Don’t push, this isn’t work. Just let it be there. You may only manage two or three seconds at first, but that’s okay.
Do this once a day, every day.
Your first thought may be something simple like “It’s all right,” or just “yes.” Your first thought doesn’t have to be specific and it won’t take root if its complex. It’s got to be a phrase that resonates within you. One that feeds your soul. Just be in that thought. Don’t try to do anything with it: this isn’t about doing, not yet. Before you can do, you must be. As Theodore Roosevelt once said, “Believe in yourself and you’re halfway there.”
When you’re trying to do everything at once, pull back and remember that thought, the one that feeds you. Take another bite and savor it.
Yes, this is baby steps. The best solutions often are. One step, one thought, one day. Then, another day, and another. Before you know it, you’re up to 17 seconds, and that’s when things really start to change. That simple effort grounds you in success because you hold your ground. Give yourself 17 seconds, once a day, to believe in you.
And that’s where success lies, in your head and in your hands. Try it. Let yourself be in that positive thought for two, four, then 17 seconds, day in and day out.
Then go rewrite your goals. The first one? Believe. 17 seconds a day. You can do it. Every other goal realigns itself, once you have that one in focus. Take this simple step, stay with it, and see what happens.
I’ll be honest, I haven’t had a major breakthrough yet. Publishers aren’t beating down my door, not yet. But I am much more productive, sharpening my skills and making real progress towards my one-year goals. I’m not drowning any more. I’ve learned to keep my head up and look ahead. I’ll bet you can too.
What are you ready to believe, for you?