How Can I Be More Like Jesus?

or Why you Should Choose your Friends Wisely

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I remember reading that you become most like the seven people you spend the greatest amount of time with each day.

Many years ago, I commuted to a job forty-five minutes away and spent eight hours with my co-workers. We had staff meetings together, enjoyed lunch together, and shared coffee breaks together.

Outside of this, I lived with my husband and had a friend rooming with us in the basement.

So these were the most influential people around me, and according to this study, these were the people I would become most like.

This disturbed me somewhat because I didn’t respect some of these people.

Some had values that I questioned and others had different lifestyles. Yet would I become like them?

In the Bible it says,

“A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray” (Proverbs 12:26 NIV).

I can see the wisdom in this proverb. When I surround myself with Christian people who share my value system, they can urge me on to become a better person. If I esteem and respect those closest to me, I can aspire to be like them.

I took that advice to heart and invited a woman I admire to be my mentor. She accepted and we have started a beautiful relationship. I respect her work as a writer, her values as a Christian, and her skills as a mother. There is much that I can learn from this woman.

“You cannot change the people around you but you can choose the people that you choose to be around.” author unknown

However, there is someone else that I can learn from. Someone Who not only understands my sorrows and pains, but Who overcame them.

Someone Who walked the talk.

Someone Who was perfect.

Someone Who is perfect.


If I want to be more like Jesus every day, He must be one of the seven people who surround me daily.

Of those seven, He really should be the one I spend the most time with.

That’s not too difficult considering that I can call upon Him at any hour, anywhere, for anything. I can talk with Him in the wee hours of the morning or during coffee break or before I close my eyes for sleep. I can read about Him and write to Him. I can join others and study what He has to say in His Book.

But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, purifies us from all sin (1 John 1:7 NIV).

Consider with whom you spend the most time day in and day out. Now consider that these seven people will have the most influence on you. Have you chosen wisely?