How to Crush A Person’s Spirit and Make Them Feel Like Crap
These steps work best if the person is family or someone who loves you and wants you to love them back.
Disagree with everything they say. If they make a suggestion, dismiss it.
Even if what they say is right, twist it to make it look like they are wrong. Don’t let up until they say you are right.
It helps if you are the kind of person who never admits they are wrong. That way the person never expects you to admit that they were right after all. They will add apologetic phrases to everything they say, such as, “I think it is supposed to rain tomorrow. At least, that is what the weather channel says.” Or, I’m not sure, but I think we are supposed to turn left at the light. At least, that is what the GPS says. This shows that they know you will always have the last word.
If you make a mistake, blame it on them. If you forgot to do something, say it is because they didn’t remind you. You can do this even if they didn’t know you were supposed to do it. If they say, “I didn’t know,” then blame them for not keeping up with things. If you drop something and break it, tell them that they were making a noise or talking or doing something that distracted you and that it is their fault. Soon, they will learn to apologize every time you make a mistake and they will never blame you for anything.
Criticize everything they do. Tell them they are doing it wrong. Stand over them until they get it right (according to you) or until they give up and stop. Or just push them aside and take over and blame them for not being able to do it right and forcing you to have to do it. Criticize the way they look, the way they talk, the way they think. Make snide remarks about them and then say you were joking. Make them feel stupid or ugly or lower class than you and others. Make them hate themselves.
Even if they succeed at something at work or school or some other activity, never praise them for it. Just say, that’s nice or completely ignore it. Make it difficult for them to complete whatever it is they need or want to do by demanding they come to help you with something. This works especially well when they are under a deadline.
Criticize their family members and their friends. Make up insulting names for their friends. Ignore their family and do not have anything to do with them. At the same time, demand that they go with you to visit your family members. Do not let them voice any complaints or criticisms of your family even though you feel free to criticize theirs.
Never show affection. Never touch them. Never praise them. Never thank them, except if they say they love you, then answer, “Thank you,” but never return the love. Do show affection to others and praise others in their presence.
Never let them know what you are feeling except when you are annoyed or angry. Don’t share your feelings or thoughts about life or anything important with them. In fact, speak with them as little as possible. If they talk to you, complain and say that they talk too much. Ignore whatever they tell you so you can say they didn’t tell you about it later.
If they are on the phone, turn up the television or music or computer to drown out their talking and make it difficult for them to hear. Complain about how much they talk to other people, but even though you never talk to them except to convey necessary information, make demands, or remind them of things they should do or what they did wrong.
Control everything. Watch what you want to watch on tv and expect them to watch with you even though you know they don’t enjoy the program. Don’t let them look at their phones or read a book without complaining that they should be watching the tv. Expect them to eat what you want to eat, to go places you want to go, to listen to music you want to hear. Be sure that they do not feel comfortable enough to do what they want. Expect them to be ready to leave a place whenever you are ready, no lingering around talking to someone at a party or anything like that.
Once in a great while a break this pattern and show some concern for the person. Just enough to keep them attached to you. Give them a gift. Or take them somewhere they want to go. Have a pleasant conversation with them. And then go back to the usual. This keeps them hooked, always hoping that you really do love them.
If making others feel like crap is your game, then these are the steps to take.
If you follow these steps, you will successfully crush that person’s spirit and make them feel like crap. They will lack confidence in themselves. They will never feel comfortable around you because they will be on constant guard against annoying or angering you. They will not trust themselves. They will lose all self-confidence and be psychologically dependent on you. Congratulations. You have crushed their spirit.
But, don’t be surprised if they are depressed or if they gain weight because of comfort eating or if they suffer diseases related to stress. Or if they turn to alcohol or drugs to deal with their self-hatred. But, this will give you that much more reason to criticize them.
If you are playing this game with someone who is making you feel like crap, then you should strongly consider dropping out of these mind games and finding a new life around people who do not crush your spirit and make you feel like crap.