They Say My Nest is Empty
A Christmas message to young mamas and not-so-young mamas
They say my nest is empty.
I never truly understood what it meant until now. It slipped in quietly while I wasn’t looking and it magnifies at Christmastime.
There’s something about children in the house that adds a special dose of delight and wonder (and craziness) to the season like nothing else can. Decorating the tree, hot chocolate, Christmas movies, and staying a step ahead of snoopy present hunters are just a few of the joys.
You may have noticed, I didn’t mention baking cookies. There’s a reason for that and you can read about it here.
These days my nest is quiet — not always but most always. I enjoy the quiet moments yet still miss silly loudness and sticky peanut butter hand-prints smeared on windows and mirrors and doors.
I reach for fleeting memories just beyond my grasp. My heart yearns for those crack-of-dawn Christmas mornings when little hands shake me awake in anticipation (and silly me wants to sleep-in a bit longer).
I make them wait as I go out first to “put the coffee on” and light up the tree. I pop cinnamon rolls in the oven as the wrapping paper flies. Christmas lists materialize in the middle of the living room and I watch their faces light-up brighter than the star on the tree.
Then there was that time I tried making a breakfast casserole the night before and accidentally doubled the measure of salt. Ever do that? Never did it again. The breakfast casserole I mean. Cinnamon rolls were always the clear winner.
But no matter the current status of this mama bird’s nest, I will choose joy and I will choose to be glad. For although life brings changes to the seasons we once knew, life brings new and wonderful seasons as well.
My nest is what I choose to make it. It’s a nest filled with love. A safe place.
And why not choose the full rather than the empty?
My Nest is Not Empty After All
My children and grandchildren visit the nest and although they may only stay for a time, I am overcome with love and the realization that my nest is not empty after all. It is continually refilling as the years go by. I’m sure hubby agrees.
There is fullness of joy when I see the man and woman our son and daughter have grown to be. Although I miss wiping their sticky peanut butter hand-prints smeared on the glass, their hands now hold my grandchildren who have sticky peanut butter hands.
I am fulfilled to overflowing as loving arms of precious grandchildren wrap around me like a warm blanket; I smile as they sweetly kiss my cheek.
This is part of the path of life and God will not allow us to journey it alone.
No matter what, He is there.
A Message to Moms
So young moms, enjoy every moment and know this: sleeping-in on Christmas morning is overrated even if you just went to bed an hour before. Careful not to blink because all that talk about time going by quickly? It’s not a cliche. Savor every moment.
And empty nest moms hang on to your memories, but don’t miss the new ones waiting to be made.
This is not the end of the story because the old story is not gone, it stretches and grows and becomes something truly wonderful.
My nest is where abundance flows with the fullness of peace, love, and hope. My nest is where the Holy Spirit dwells and Jesus is Lord.
No matter our journey or whether we have young children, grown children, or no children at all, when we invite the presence of the Lord into our nest called home we will find fullness of joy always. That’s a promise.
But maybe it’s not your nest that feels empty, maybe it’s you. Friend, this promise and truth applies to the deepest parts of our soul. The key is His presence. Invite God in and therein lies the fullness of joy.
Sometimes God allows the empty so we can make room for more of Him.
Our nests are not empty, our nests are blessed.
You will show me the path of life;
In Your presence is fullness of joy;
At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16:11
Merry Christmas, friend. May your heart be glad and rejoice in the reason for the season, no matter what season you’re in.
What are some of your favorite Christmas memories?
Doris Swift is a the author of Goodbye, Regret: Forgiving Yourself of Past Mistakes. Get a free gift when you subscribe to her blog here. Follow her on Facebook & Twitter @DorisSSwift
