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How to Stop Feeling Like a Loser

Take pride in yourself

Ayodeji Awosika
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11 min readOct 7, 2023

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In 2023, it is socially acceptable to be a loser.

It’s like you can’t even hold anyone to any sort of standard without being called toxic — including yourself.

Do those messages that tell you to ‘just accept yourself’ no matter what actually work? Does all that self-care and positive self-talk actually make you love yourself?

Or is it all a bullshit band-aid to avoid dealing with the core issues that make you feel like a loser?

I’m just reminding you of the way you probably already feel and making you confront it.

If this doesn’t apply to you, then just stop reading.

But if you suspect I’m right, confront it. Stop running. It’s going to hurt. But it’ll be worth it.

You know the gaps between who you currently are and who you want to be. Instead of trying to trick yourself into being more confident (it doesn’t work), just close the gap.

Here are some strategies you can use to stop feeling like a loser.

Reject Pop Culture

You’re being brainwashed.

Pop culture subliminally influences your behavior and fits you into archetypes they create.

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Ayodeji Awosika
Ayodeji Awosika

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