I Don’t Want To Have Children Yet, but I Feel I’m Running Out of Time

Why does having a baby still feel like an obligation?

Desiree Peralta
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Photo by Ramin Talebi on Unsplash

Next month, I turn 27 years old.

For many people, I’m still young. For others, I’m already adult enough to have more responsibilities than the ones I have now.

As I grew older, I knew that I had to accept and deal with certain social pressures that the people around me expected me to comply with. And, from the beginning, I think I was ready for it.

I went to college, found a job, learned about finances to invest my money properly, and became “someone in life.” I bought a house, a car, and a stable partner who is considered a good man. I traveled, helped other people, and built a side hustle.

I have done everything people expect of me.

Despite having accomplished all those achievements, I never thought that people would ever be satisfied. If you live by people's expectations, it will never be enough. You make a song, and people expect you to make an album; you make an album, and people expect you to go on tour; you go on tour, and they expect you to reach a million followers.

There will always be something else why everyone around you keeps pushing you to feel like you haven’t reached…

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Desiree Peralta
Publishous

Turning ideas into reality. Programmer by profession, Writer by passion. Finance and business advice. | Weekly money advice https://dessyperalt.substack.com/