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If You’ve Cried For Someone? Read This.

Crying Is the last action to actualize your feelings.

Hardik Mangukiya
Publishous
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6 min readJun 24, 2019

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“You left and I cried tears of blood. My sorrow grows. Its not just that You left. But when You left my eyes went with You. Now, how will I cry? “— Rumi

You cried for those whom you love.

Crying is not obvious. It takes gut to tear down your eyes. But when do you feel like it?

Sometimes, you want to, but a single drop doesn’t come out. Sometimes, you know everything. Still, you're silencing yourself to make her win. It’s your choice to lose against love.

My best ever relationship has dropped me into dark nights. I screamed and crying every day, I’m not sharing publicly everything, and I don’t want to. But I learned enormous lessons from grieving.

I never ever whined that hard for anyone in any condition. Sometimes, I’m wondering why she is so special that she tore me down like hell.

She is also human, but still, she impacted on a deep level.

Crying Is The Last Action To Actualize Your Feelings.

When you feel hurt or your loved ones constantly keeping you away without clarifying, you feel being ignored.

First, you try to interact, you ask for reasons, you apologize, you’re ready to do everything they want, and you try every available alternative.

Unfortunately, they don’t come. It happens with most people. The same story. No matter how hard you try, but she doesn’t want to listen to your single word.

Now your real test starts. You feel overwhelmed to explain your feelings, and it hurts even her. You’re quieting yourself. You lose hope and patience, anyhow, you want her on the table in front of endless questions that she has to answer.

It’s a fairy tale. In reality, you’re living with this incident, anyhow, you’re memorizing her, waiting for a reply. But nothing happened as per your expectations.

But still, you haven’t cried for her. You’re strong. Suddenly, the emotional attack occurs and take over, you screamed hard. It’s your worst time. You’re afraid to show your emotions. At late night you forgive everything and wept. You want her at most, but she doesn’t understand your feelings.

Crying is the last step — whether it’s love or pain. It doesn’t come out in the first place.

When you achieved the most aspired goals that you coveted for years, you cry out of joy. And when you’re at the worst stage, when you feel downright miserable, then you cry loudly.

Crying is the extreme level of love and pain.

When you cry for the person, you have only unconditional, pure, deep love at the moment. For that 5–10 minutes, you’re at your peaks.

Love Happens At The End.

Love itself is not easy. When you pass through all the negative emotions, then love originates at the end.

When you depleted from love, and lose hope, at the same moment, love shines.

It unfolds into different forms.

  • When you leave the person for her own sake, she will come.
  • When you cry hard to realize your sentiments.
  • When you create something out of your comfort zone, and she senses your honesty.
  • When you least expect it, and she proposes to you.

But, it happens when you feel exhausted. When you don’t crave. When you don’t try for it.

Love happens when you undergo each and every emotion at their peak.

Why does love shine at the end? Because It’s the most influential emotion ahead of all.

Most People Can’t Grieve Easily.

Why people can’t cry? Because there’s a lack of love and pain.

If you truly love someone, he has to tear down his eyes — In happiness or sadness.

People don’t cry because other emotions are so strong that love can’t overcome them. Their love is infirm.

Why some people make a difference in our lives? Why we can’t forget them for years? Because it’s their energy of love or hurt.

My friend told me. “When I an in my adversest stage of life, still I can’t cry.” But he can easily cry for his girlfriend.

That’s the difference between relationships and romantic relationships.

Romantic relationships have high highs and low lows, and your intensity of love determines the strength of the attachment.

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You’re Lovable Enough.

Whenever I feel unloved, I cry, and this makes me even distressed. But after that, I’m the most lovable person.

Crying increase self-worth, you’re feeling better, your emotions manifested. You’re loving your wounds too. Crying increases acceptance.

You allow your scars and other people too. You love her at peaks. You feel balanced love. You’re okay if she transmits and finds another one.

You have self-love, and at the same time, you love for her — This is the ultimate level.

I actualized an excellent benefit of crying. When I express everything, last drop of tear. I immediately pardon myself and her. I’m the happiest person at the moment. it’d be okay if she isn’t responding. I’m ready to let go. I’m still here for her.

When you feel persistent pain out of control, you scream, and suddenly, you’re at your best version.

Treasure this moment. It realizes you that crying is bravery — not weakness.

And yes, it’s not a hateful act or ego-downing exercise. It happens naturally, and it’s beneficial for health. You’re protecting your heart from cardiac attack.

When you don’t trust on love, crying is the assurance, remember, if nothing can make you cry, but one person is so special that you tore down eyes means you love her.

Love Happens To Strong Person.

You’re strong enough. Most people don’t cry wholeheartedly because they’re not stable. They avoid pain. They’re afraid to feel the emotions. They only oblige love.

But, you’re powerful than that. You endured in the adverse situation and managed yourself.

Real love happens for those who surface love from negative emotions. When you beat anger, sadness, fear, resentment, frustration, jealousy, distress, lowliness, ignorance, hurt, and hostility, then love evolves into you. Most people live with conflicting behavior, and they don’t sense real love.

Love itself is not real or fake, but those who can surface and encountered the highest peaks feel the ultimate level of love.

If You Made Them Cry — Remember, You Hurt Those Who Love You At Their Highest Peaks.

Suppose, it’s you that made someone grieve, you don’t want to forgive him, or he is trying to convince you. Anyhow, you aren’t letting him enter your life.

Remember one thing, whatever it is, but at the moment he cries, he loves you at his immense level. He is just thinking about you. He is coveting your best. He is only praying for you. At the moment, he is the one who is believing more than himself.

I know it’s not the barometer or real love. Time unveils the different story, but most people, especially man, can’t cry easily, and if he is mourning for you, means he is loving deeply.

You may or may not get the better person, but if you leave, you’re losing someone who is loving you deeply.

Let’s Understand Love.

See, love is not always romantic or high highs.

“Everyone can cry but time reveals everything” it’s overrated.

If someone really important for you, you do anything to get her, and this is your choice. If she is not ready, still you wait. If she insults you, still you tolerate and don’t explain. This is love. You want to make her win, and you lose.

Believe it or not, not everyone can do this.

People don’t have a gut to devote their emotions. If you do it for someone, you’re the brave and real one. And someone is doing for you, you’re a great person that your love made him cry.

This is the power of love. Sometimes, one action is enough to actualize authenticity. People wait for years, and when someone bequeaths them, they blame on the situation.

Yes, it’s important to accept someone at your rate, but when someone consistently shows honest feelings, don’t neglect this. Trust on the person because sharing vulnerability takes gut. Not everyone can do it.

Let’s open your heart for someone who is trying to realize his honest self.

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Hardik Mangukiya
Publishous

Big believer in Positive Psychology, writing about productive and thriving life.