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Life Rewards Problem Solvers by Throwing More Problems At Them

Often when we think we lack the right tools to game the obstacle ahead of us, what we need instead is perspective.

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If you meet someone with a problem-solving attitude and a sense of humour, who loves doing laundry, marry them ( even if you are already married ).

Moving forward in life by ramming tick boxes gives us purpose because it shows we’re moving the needle in a direction that feels fulfilling and rewarding in the long term.

While the problem-solving name is a dull moniker because it’s a paradox — it’s made of two semantically opposite words — which gives me a temporal but shocking migraine whenever I hear it. But phrasing it as a solution-driven mindset makes the much-needed difference in perception.

The unfair advantage.

Life gives an unfair advantage to problem-solvers by throwing more problems at them to develop their mental strength for future adversities.

Once the pain becomes your friend, it makes failure your puppet and finding meaning in struggle becomes second nature.

You are unique. Your problems are not. Since I developed the habit of reading self-help three years ago after graduating from college and became obsessed with self-improvement, I learned that most of our day-to-day problems are as intense as we treat them in our heads.

Humanity is around a million years old. The problems you’re facing right now, someone has already solved them. It’s only a matter of discovery.

Here are three ways a problem-solving attitude makes you a better person, irrespective of your intelligence, age or stage in life.

#1. Don’t dwell in the complainer mindset forever.

People love problem-solvers not because they have the answer to all the questions but because of their curiosity to look at every problem from a new angle.

Often when we think we lack the right tools to game the obstacle ahead of us, what we need instead is perspective.

A problem-solver does not let their bias and assumption get in the way of objectifying the problem.

They understand, let the idea marinate and return with a fresh mindset to deliver an effective solution from a new POV.

Taking a break helps our mind find unexpected solutions ( yes, more than one! ) we may never have thought of in sheer brainstorming mode. The scientific term is scattered focus.

#2. Separate the person from the problem.

Whenever an argument based on a problem shifts to blaming each other for the problem’s generation, it becomes an ego problem, eventually becoming the race of one-upping each other by finding personal faults.

I used to do it all the time. I still do it sometimes because the ego is a tricky beast to tame.

Blaming someone else instead of solving the problem is a clear sign of broadcasting your insecurity.

A responsible person separates the person from the problem. They don’t fire personal attacks by letting their ego dominate the conversation.

Instead, they stay as objective as possible, and in the process of fixing the mess independent of who started it, they promote healthy social connections because not being an ass pays off big time. It’s a no-brainer.

#3. Embrace your flaws because you can’t outrun them.

Problem-solving and decision-making are siblings, which means your cognitive biases will hinder both processes.

Cognitive biases are the mental shortcuts our brains develop from experiences that do not always result in wise judgement.

There are many biases if you look online, but understanding their effect is the first step to accepting that there are multiple solutions to the same problem.

Someone who knows how much they have internalised specific cognitive biases and is willing to look past them has honesty written all over their personality.

Honesty is attractive.

Closing thoughts.

We are nothing without our problems and pain because they test and boost our mental strengths.

Solving problems gives us purpose, confidence and a reason to keep training our mental skills.

A solution-driven mindset is a people magnet because it has the critical component of empathy and understanding.

A solution-driven person is easy to hang around because they have come to terms with paying attention only to things under their control. In doing so, they maximise their efforts, prioritise objectivity and learn about their biases to bless their decision-making aptitude.

Here is a recap for your memory about the timeless benefits of a problem-solver mindset:

  • You don’t rot in the complainer mindset forever.
  • You don’t let ego blind you from being objective.
  • You embrace your flaws instead of running from them or hiding them.

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Sanjeev is a mentor, writer, and fitness enthusiast from India. He writes about lifelong learning, personal growth, and positive psychology. When he’s not engaging with students in solving their doubts or busy writing, he’s sweating either in a workout, vlogging, or playing with his cat, Jim. You can also find him on Instagram and Twitter.

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Writer • Mentor • Recovering Shopaholic • IITR 2019 • ✍🏼 Personal Growth, Positive Psychology & Lifelong Learning• IG: sanjeevai • List: sanjeevai.ck.page