I ran into a friend a few nights back. Wish I could remember the exact date, but I noted what happened down in my phone — thankfully.
When I say it was random, I mean every bit of it. I was just about to ask why a truck was parked in the middle of the road when someone called me by a name only people I went to high school with would understand.
“Aye, twin!” someone yelled from behind me.
As I was getting out of the car to see who called me, I realized that this person’s voice sounded familiar.
This person turned out to be an old high school classmate of mine.
As we exchanged handshakes and laughs, we started talking. Little did I know that this conversation would be much needed.
Turns out, he and his father were about to part ways. That’s why the truck was (sort of) parked in the middle of the road.
They asked me what I was up to nowadays.
I was surprisingly appalled in a way.
My response was confusing and jumbled because I didn’t really know how to answer that question. I guess I hadn’t given it enough thought until that point.
I’m doing so many things. And not one of them seems to be going in the direction I’d like for them to go.
After I talked his head off trying to explain myself, he told me something I will never forget.
He told me to make a decision.
That’s right. Make a decision. Three simple words that hold so much weight.
For the past 7 years of my life, I have been guessing. I’ve been waiting for things to be exactly where they needed to be for me to make a decision.
Fast-forward 7 years later and I’m 25.
I’ve realized that hesitating and waiting for the stars to align before I make a decision just doesn’t work.
This guy is now working for the sheriff department in a nearby city.
When he told me that, it floored me, cause I knew this guy in high school. And I never thought he’d be working anywhere near that field.
But I guess that’s exactly how life goes. You just never know what people will become.
This encounter was a reminder for me to take a step.
Make a decision and stop hesitating.
Life does not hesitate. It moves forward.
Every day is a brand new opportunity to take one more step in the direction you choose to go.
After all, the choice is yours to make.
When you hesitate, you do nothing but waste time.
And before you know it, you’re so far behind where you could’ve been.
But there’s no point in thinking about what could’ve, should’ve, or would’ve happened in the past. There’s nothing you can do about that except get all down and blue about it.
Live in the now. But make the necessary changes.
Use the past as a reference for the future, not a replica of the future itself.
Do those things you talk about doing instead of only talking about it — like you did in the past.
If you fail, so what?
What’s wrong with failing?
Failing is necessary. No child learns to walk until they fall a couple of times. Make that a lot of times. But, in the end, those “failures” enabled them to walk.
Think about that the next time you’re about to procrastinate and say, “I’ll figure it out later.”
Hesitation is something I’ve struggled with for far too long.
No more though. Not after that night.
Keith Horton is a full-time student, writer, and musician. He is a contributor for The Ascent, The Startup, The Writing Cooperative, Publishous, and more.
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