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Men Don’t Care if You Are a “Gold Digger” Until They Can’t Afford You
The problem isn’t buying you something; it is not being able to do it.
I grew up in a home where my mother taught me to be as independent as possible. She was very dependent on my father, and she didn’t want her daughters to go through the same thing. So we learned from a young age to work for what we wanted, not to wait for a man to take care of the basics, and to save money for our dreams.
For this reason, I’ve never had standards regarding money in a relationship. If I like you, I like you, and no amount of money changes that. So, I’ve dated all kinds of men, from those who live paycheck to paycheck to those who have enough to build me a castle.
And here’s what I’ve noticed: men don’t actually mind gold diggers. They mind women who are out of their league.
When a man can afford the lifestyle a woman wants, he will make sure she has it.
Something I’ve always noticed is that when a man is in love, he tries to share everything he has with that woman. Men like to feel useful, that they can be a positive part of a woman’s life, and that they would do anything to see her happy. Being a provider makes them feel powerful.
