My Mental Armour Against Insults
What I do not to get offended
I was a short-tempered kid in my childhood. My tolerance level was nil. Zero. I wouldn’t accept anyone’s advice, even if it were positive feedback. I always perceived other’s advice as an insult.
I thought people deliberately wanted to denigrate me and sabotage my image. This mindset ruined my mental ease and often agitated me (unnecessarily).
Then my father once sat me down and asked me a simple question, “Why would people want to hurt you on purpose?”
Within a microsecond, I answered, “Maybe people don’t like me. Or maybe they hate me….” I responded with many baseless assumptions that my father asked me again, “Why? Why would anyone hate you? Don’t they have anything else to do in their life?”
These questions opened the floodgates for staying unfazed by insults. I asked myself, “After all, what’s an insult?” Every time, I came up with only one word:
“Insult is just an unfavorable energy.”
What people give you is not an insult but an unexpected, unfavorable response (that you perceive as a threat to your peace, happiness, and probably your societal image/status). Since you can’t safeguard yourself against that negative energy, you create resentment, anger…
