Oprah Loves Having JOMO and You Should Too
The fear of missing out, or FOMO, is running rampant throughout our society. With instant access to social media, we’re able to see whatever our family, friends, or role models are doing within seconds. We’re attached to our phones, glued to our newsfeeds, never satisfied with where we currently are. There is always somebody doing something more fun. Somebody on an extravagant vacation. Somebody at a party you couldn’t make.
When the majority of people have these moments of comparison, their immediate response is “ugh, FOMO.” It’s become an all-encompassing sensation. It reveals how miserable somebody is to not be doing what others are. It shares how discontent somebody is with their current situation.
However, I recently had the chance to see somebody speak who at this point in her life, swears that she never has FOMO. In fact, she has JOMO, a Joy Of Missing Out that completely counteracts our current FOMO culture. This woman happened to be Oprah Winfrey.
Oprah shared with the audience that she loves to see other people having fun. She just has no interest in being a part of it! She loves herself so much that rather than going to that amazing gala everybody is talking about, she’d rather cozy up with a glass of wine and a book and enjoy her time alone. Put another way, she playfully stated, “I’ve got my own tequila, so if people wanna party, they can just come on over to my house!”
But Oprah was not always like this. She had FOMO just like the rest of us. Whether that be socially or professionally, she expressed how she felt like she had to say yes to everything. She had to be an active participant or else she’d be viewed as an outsider. And even when she said no to things, she had to act like she did have FOMO, or else she also would be viewed as an outcast for not wanting to be where everyone else was.
This all changed however when Oprah took full ownership of her personality and became unapologetically her. This is how we are able to shift our mindset so that we worry about ourselves and not others. This is how we turn fearing missing out into enjoying staying in. This is how we turn FOMO into JOMO.
Oprah was able to do this by understanding who the few truly important people were in her life. So long as they understood why she didn’t want to be somewhere, that was all that mattered. She stopped reading the tabloids, stopped listening to the rumors and gossip, and she directed her view solely toward the people she knew and loved most.
Once she started doing this and publicly enjoying her JOMO, others started to take part as well. People thanked her for making it okay to miss out on things; for making it ok to be by yourself; for making it ok to not have to put on a façade and do everything just because it’s what is expected of you. Oprah made it ok to live according to your own expectations and nobody else’s.
It’s important to have human connection in our lives. But, it’s more important to connect with the person who matters most. Yourself. Relinquish the fear of being judged for not being somewhere. Stop comparing yourself to the highlight reel lives others share on social media. Don’t be afraid to say no thanks, not tonight. In fact, embrace that mindset, and bask in your JOMO.
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