The Smear Campaign of a Narcissist

By the time you become aware of it, it’s already too late

There are few moments less devastating than when you discover the one you loved, the one you committed your entire being and devoted your life to, possibly married and had children with, is the very one who has been lying behind your back and creating a false narrative about you since the moment you met.

Unfortunately, this What the fuck? moment usually comes after the fact. After you’ve left or been left, after a narcissistic ripped out your heart and ate it in front of you, and once you’ve begun (or attempted to begin) moving forward toward recovery and healing.

For the sake of comparison, let’s pretend for a moment that there is such a thing as a normal divorce or breakup where two emotionally healthy people decide to go their separate ways. It’s possible that one or both of the parties may somewhat skew the past when getting into new relationships so that it favors them. Nothing earthshattering or pathological, just a bit of alteration that is harmless in its intent.

Of course, all of this happens after the breakup. So it’s easy to deal with because the “ex” has no clue they’re even being discussed.

Mere child’s play in comparison to what a narcissist does.