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The Subtle Reason of Choosing Your Problems

Piyush Kamal🎖
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In life, there is no escaping from problems and struggles. Even if you manage to change your current lifestyle, don’t be surprised to find yourself surrounded by an entirely new set of issues and struggles.

It’s another matter that context and magnitude of your new problems might present you with all new possibilities.

But ironically, there is no way to know this unless you explore the new frontiers which could present you with challenging problems.

We are rarely trained to embrace the problems in our life.

The protected upbringing widely prevalent through helicopter parenting is not helping this cause at all. Too much of intervention in a child’s life is making them shy away from facing even fundamental problems.

For example, tying your daughter’s shoelaces when she’s eight years old is just as sorry for her as pressurizing her to get an A in all her test. While the actions themselves are different, both ultimately treating the child as if she can’t do anything on her own.

This obsessive parenting also robs their children of aspirations by viewing their children as an extension of their own, rather than as unique individuals with unique needs and desires.

And this uniqueness is cultivated when these kids are exposed to a different degree of discomforts by making them go through challenging problems.

In the absence of this exposure, these children end up growing into an adult possessing a shallow ability to solve problems. The ramifications of this could be appreciated more by understanding the correlation between (struggles & problems) and our ability to address them. Keeping this in mind I have made an illustration by drawing fig: A, where the interaction between the two variables has resulted in four quadrants.

Illustration by Piyush Kamal

We all agree that the pursuit of academic excellence puts unwarranted pressure on everyone to showcase their problem-solving abilities. But we all kind of know the real truth behind all those claims. In Fig: A: If you can match your high level of struggles and problems…

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Piyush Kamal🎖
Publishous

Published Author Who Loves to Play at the Intersection of Cognitive Psychology, Neuroscience, & Philosophy — Sharing the Slice of Wisdom Not on Paper but Screen