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Toxic Masculinity Is Not A Men’s Issue
Let’s open Pandora’s Box.
Modern gender roles are a mess.
Mainstream society slaps a “toxic” label on everything that’s even remotely masculine. Assertiveness. Competition. Strength. Rationality. Sexual desire. I ain’t easy being a man.
I get it. Nobody wants an aggressive, unempathetic, privileged male tell his female coworkers to shut up because he’ll be late to drunk-driving home from the bar and beating his wife.
But at one point, we lost touch with the actual issue. Riding the trend has gone so far that men have to watch their every word so blue-haired feminists won’t whack them over the head with giant dildos.
I’ve spent a lot of time in the men’s space as a writer and coach and talked endless hours to women about the current state of masculinity — the result?
Toxic masculinity isn’t a men’s issue. It’s a boys’ issue.
Most Men Are Just Adult Boys
What’s the difference between a boy and a man?
It’s not the age, the beard, or a good job and own place to live. There are plenty of menchildren out there with it. The answer is something far more profound.
