What Emotional Freedom From a Narcissist Looks Like.
And how the process of healing is worth the result.
There is a point for any victim of narcissistic abuse — after escaping the relationship but before finding any relief from the pain — where hopelessness sets in and the voices in your head become louder and louder to the point where you’re wider awake at 2 a.m. than at any time during daylight hours.
That point when it feels like you’ll never be free of what happened to you. That you’ll never “get over” the one who hurt you. And that you’ll never find love again.
Since narcissists do what is often called the “grand mindfuck” on their victims, which includes a combination of gaslighting, love-bombing, hoovering, triangulating, and a boatload of lying and cheating that makes the Devil seem like not such a bad guy, after all, leaving a narcissist behind can feel like getting out of solitary confinement and the insane asylum on the same day.
The healing process, therefore, is equally fraught with heartache and suffering and can take years, especially if someone is traveling that road all alone (we tend to lose people as we make our way from the darkness to the light, which is as it should be but still not easy, plus trying to find professional help for what we’ve been through is a daunting task…
