When Should You Let Go of a Dream?

Deciding to stop trying is a hard choice.

Melissa Miles McCarter
Publishous
Published in
3 min readMay 29, 2023

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Photo by Jaime Handley on Unsplash

One of the biggest challenges in life is knowing when to let go and when to keep trying, no matter how impossible the challenges appear to be.

After thirteen years of infertility, after the death of my first daughter from SIDS, I was pretty much ready to be done with the dream of raising our biological child.

We had done so many failed treatments, and I was now 39 years old. Time was time running out.

Fast.

But I was scared that if we kept trying, we’d be disappointed.

The first round, I did get pregnant – but then I miscarried quickly.

We had frozen several embryos during the first cycle. So, we tried again, and this time I WAS PREGNANT. We thought the challenges were over.

Right?

After seven months of a challenging and life-threatening pregnancy due to placenta previa, I gave birth to my daughter six weeks early. We lived 2 hours away from the hospital, and after I was discharged, we made the drive back and forth every day. I was exhausted, pumping to get enough breast milk all day and night.

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