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Why I Don’t Want Children
The most humane thing I can do for my children is not to have them.
I’ve never had a maternal instinct. For years, many people told me that this feeling would emerge at some point in my adulthood, but at 27, I have never felt the desire to be a mother.
I’m good with kids, and I treat them very special and sweet whenever I’m around one or have to babysit, so people are often surprised when I tell them I’m not interested in having my own (especially since I’ve been with my partner for 8 years and that’s what’s expected after so much time together).
I’ve reached a point where I don’t know what to say to someone who asks me the dreaded question of when I’ll have babies, and why “never” is my answer. So, I made this list.
So, if you think like me, don’t want to have children, and would like to give reasons, maybe this list will also help you.
- I love my life now. I don’t see myself sacrificing this independence FOREVER.
- Children will cost you sleep, and you will have to wake up every few hours to feed and change them.
- The world is already chaotic, polluted, capitalist, and insecure regarding food. There is no need to force anyone into that.
- There’s no break from parenthood.
