Why You Can’t Find Love

You are not as available as you think you are.

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Many people are obsessed with the idea of finding their soulmate, but are unable to have anyone by their side.

I know several people who are attractive, successful, have fun personalities, and want relationships, yet they are in their 40s, 50s, or 60s, and nothing seems to work for them.

They get asked out, some of them go on dates, and they meet different interesting people. But somehow, every potential relationship fades away before it begins. They have endless stories about people who “weren’t right for them,” situations that “just didn’t work out,” or connections that “didn’t feel quite right.”

How is it possible that in a world where everyone wants to be loved and many people are constantly searching for love, there are so many people who are alone?

The answer is simple: they’re not as available or open to love as they think they are.

I analyzed the situation of ten close friends and acquaintances who say they “want to be in a relationship, but can’t find a partner who wants to be with them,” and I discovered their main problem: they’re sabotaging their own chances without even realizing it. They think they want love, but when a real connection appears in front of them, they find reasons to…