People who can really succeed face difficulties like this
Be a successful person
In this life, no matter who you are, you will always encounter big and small hurdles, and you will have to bear some pressure more or less.
It’s just that some people gritted their teeth and carried it with tears when they encountered something, but some people were crushed.
There is no shortage of things in this world that will turn your world upside down. The important thing is whether you can handle it.
The writer Yu Hua said: Among the younger generation in China, there are many outstanding people, but there are very few people who can stand up to things.
What does it mean to be able to handle things?
It is not to escape, not to give up easily, to face the difficulties, to grit your teeth and find a way to tide over the difficulties, even if you fail, you have the courage to start all over again.
Those who can handle big things deal with them in this way.
1. Can control the situation
In life, there are always many uncontrollable factors that make people fall into adversity.
At this time, there were people who had no masters and lost their positions, leading to the loss of the chance of a comeback.
It’s like playing chess. Once you make a bad move and become passive, the more you want to get the game back.
The style of chess will suddenly become particularly aggressive, and the more flaws in chess will be. Instead, the opponent will take advantage of it and lose all the games in the end.
There are also people, no matter how bad they are, they can discover what they can control, believe that they can control the situation, and ultimately turn defeat into victory. This is due to their strong sense of control.
Hold on to adversity first. What you have to do is not to win immediately, but not to lose now.
As the old saying goes, if you stay with the green hills, you are not afraid that there will be no firewood.
First stabilize the present, control the situation and prevent the situation from getting worse, then gather strength and wait for the opportunity.
Be a person who can carry things. When the test comes, ask yourself these two questions:
Can you control the scene?
Does your heart have control over the overall situation?
This kind of control does not come from a moment, but to start with small things, to decompose and plan every work, so as to gradually cultivate the aura and ability to control the situation.
2. Don’t let the negative extend
Some people say that only those who can control their emotions can control their lives.
Deeply agree. Those who can resist will never let negative emotions spread arbitrarily in their lives.
Some people become sister-in-law Xianglin as soon as they encounter something. They talk about their pains when they meet everyone. This way, apart from making their pain more painful, it doesn’t help solve the problem in the slightest.
In fact, the things that make you anxious and painful may not actually be as serious as you think. In many cases, you just scare yourself.
You know, the human brain absolutely rejects vacuum, and it won’t be idle for a moment.
When we push the negative emotions like “I’m going to be done, I won’t do it anymore” out of our brains, methods and plans and similar things will slip in and quickly fill up the vacancies after the negative emotions are gone.
Therefore, if a person knows how to control his emotions and is not dragged by anxiety, he will usually think of a solution.
Even if the sky is full of dark clouds, what about it, passing through the past is sunshine.
Of course, controlling emotions does not mean to forbearing emotions blindly.
Everyone has a brief moment of collapse.
Many times, you have been holding on for a long time, but it is an inadvertent moment that touches your pain point, and then your emotions will instantly lose control.
In fact, occasional venting is necessary.
After all, the string is too tight and needs to be relaxed appropriately. It’s okay to cry aloud when the pain is too much for you to bear. Just remember, don’t indulge in pessimism for too long, and don’t stay on the verge of collapse for too long.
We must learn to be an adult who is not easy to collapse, able to withstand things, and withstand hardship.
3. Bear it, don’t give up growing
When encountering difficulties, can you persevere? There is no easy word in adult life.
Difficulties are like waves in the ocean. They are not hit all at once, but wave after wave, so whether they can face the test again and again, especially the people.
Here, there are two secrets.
The first secret is endurance.
In real life, many people lack patience. They change goals frequently, move themselves with a little effort, and give up lightly when encountering a little setback.
The reason is nothing more than tiredness, it has been so “long”, and life has given me so many “big blows”, but it has not been effective, it is enough. If you want happiness to come, you don’t want to spend a few seconds waiting.
“Hayao Miyazaki once said in “My Neighbor Totoro”: “After working hard, I learned many things. I insisted and came over.”
“On the road to dreams, who doesn’t lie across several mountains? Although we don’t have the ability to “move mountains and reclaim the sea”, we must have the determination and patience to “move mountains”.
The second secret is growth.
People with a growth mindset believe that abilities can be cultivated through hard work and study. They tend to smile and frustrate, draw nourishment from them, regard stumbling as a foreshadowing, and force their excellence.
You can’t retreat when you encounter difficulties. Where can you retreat? You can only fight with it.
Therefore, in a difficult situation, people must learn at least two things:
First, wait a little longer, maybe it will be a little bit bright;
Second, in the process of waiting, never give up growth.
4. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best
A person will encounter many difficulties throughout his life, and you never know which one is the biggest test.
All you can do is prepare for the worst, and then actively prepare strategies for it.
Wang Shi was criticized by the public for the 2008 Wenchuan earthquake donation incident, and many people even asked him to resign.
Later, in his “Return to the Future” speech, he recalled how he had gone through the darkest moment of his life:
First, prepare for the worst;
Second, we must maintain an optimistic attitude;
Third, hard work is very important;
Fourth, the experience of facing the most difficult moments will become your wealth.
There is a kind of maturity called positive pessimism.
To be pessimistic is to prepare yourself for the worst when encountering things, and imagine the worst possible outcome.
And to be active is to make the best preparations and hope for the best.
No matter how big the difficulty is, try to get through it.
As long as the worst is not here, you should always hope for the best and tell yourself that everything is okay and that the future will be better. After all, in certain circumstances, our last freedom is to choose our own attitude
The writer Su Cen has a passage:
“When the mood is the worst, I still eat on time, go to bed early and wake up early, and exercise self-discipline as before. Such a person is a person who can carry things.
No matter how messy personnel matters, you can’t disrupt your heart.
People don’t need to have so many extraordinary things, being able to handle things is talented. “
A person who can carry things is like a big tree, but it still stands upright after the four seasons of wind, frost and rain. Being able to carry things is bold and a unique charm.
