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Rage and Social Change

Examining My Own Cis Privilege

After writing “A Call for Cisgender Action,” I got an overwhelming response via email and social media. A mother of a trans* child, educators, and activists contacted me with questions and feedback. The response prompted me to spend a lot of time pouring over gender-related blog posts and Tweets this week. Most of…

A Call for Cisgender Action

Creating gender-inclusive spaces and moments in everyday life

The gradual push for marriage equality in the U.S. has created a lot of buzz around queer culture, specifically around gay, lesbian, and bisexual identities. These communities have gained mainstream visibility within straight and cisgender culture. You can get a Human…

Your First Time

Being Trans Isn’t About Being Different

All your life, nobody has seen you as you are. They’ve always put you in group A, but you’ve always belonged in group B.

And now, you’re doing it. You are presenting as female for the first time.

It’s a big fucking deal.

I Am Trans. I Am Transphobic.

The image is seared into my mind: a man in a frumpy dress, poorly shaved beard, obnoxious wig, and equally obnoxious bangs. Oh God, the bangs.

Short, forehead-covering bangs are ruined for me because I am transphobic. I have this image of a man in drag stuck in my head, and a part of me cannot distinguish that image from myself.

A Short Reflection on a Bittersweet Pride Month

It’s been a bittersweet Pride month between today’s Prop 8/DOMA SCOTUS decisions, the fact that we have to sue the NYPD for spying on…

Dear New Yorkers, Your Queer Friends Need You.

For as long as I’ve been a visibly genderqueer person in New York, the start of summer has brought on feelings of exuberance and fear…


This is the text of a talk I gave to Bloomington High School South’s gay-straight alliance in Indiana on April 24, 2013. The talk was part of Live Out Loud’s Homecoming Project.

This is a combination of my prep notes and my own memory of what I said. It’s not a word-for-word transcript, but it’s pretty close.

Do something useful with those recruiting emails

Like most people in the tech industry, I get a lot of cold emails from recruiters trying to hire me away. Sometimes it’s for a hot new…

Please don’t say “tranny”

Would you call an effeminate man a fag? Would you call a woman with short hair a dyke? Of course you wouldn’t. So why do you think it’s okay to call anyone a tranny?

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