“Most Girls Are Bi, Especially in College”
An invalidating yet seemingly pervasive take.
My realization of my bisexuality in college didn’t come from experimenting with a girl, like the stereotype goes. I wish. That would have been way more fun than agonizingly second-guessing myself for months before my inevitable, anticlimactic conclusion I wasn’t straight.
And it would have been far more validating for my discovery to have come from feeling wanted by women instead of unlearning my shame, wondering if my affections were creepy or predatory.
Either way I found out though, I’m sure some would find a way to invalidate my discovery.
Newfound bisexuality in college is basically a punchline, insinuating that it’s either not real — just a product of wanting fun or attention, and/or “a phase” — or otherwise meaningless, just shallow desire characteristic of young women.
I can’t even count how many times I’ve seen women on TV or in movies allude to some kind of prior sapphic sexual experience, often in college. (But of course, not in any meaningful way to threaten their relationships with men).
I don’t mind laughing at my experience myself. That for five years, I had submerged most serious contemplations over my sexuality, but all of those efforts were no match…
