How Moving From To-Do List to To-Be List Will Change Your Life?
How To-Be List Is Different From To-Do?
Today’s society seems to value “doing” more than “being”, and for any life improvement we start taking next To-Do action and stop thinking that what role we are playing. If we are dealing with our kids we need to be parent first and then execute To-Do list rather than just taking action blindly.
Actions and emotions are different when you change your role and become the person that more suitable for the To-Do list. Things flow effortlessly.
Don’t you want to be someone and then do something
Why You Need a To-Be List?
Doing is tough; executing tasks from To-Do list one-after-another is monotonous. Sometimes you feel if you try to “be” like this ( another role ) your To-Do list can change.
If you find a few To-Do actions in your list are not relevant then create a perfect “To-Be” role for those actions and see if they now fit better.
The only thing more important than your to-do list is your to-be list. The only thing more important than your to-be list is to be ― Alan Cohen
How To Experiment?
If your To-Be list has Emphatic, Connected and Social then your daily To-Do list should have Talk to kids about school, interact with neighbors about work, reply to a friend on his holiday pics rather than call mom, send an email, visit neighbor.
Don’t take this too much serious because:-
What About Not-To-Do List?
Occasionally, not doing things become more important than doing things, particularly when you have just created To-Do out of your motivation, and you haven’t thought through To-Be list
So, let’s not create a To-Do list for the sake of it and get imprisoned by it. If things are important, and you are in the To-Be role you will know what to do next.
To wrap it all up
You need to solve problems not just tick off items from the To-Do list, and sometimes situations are very dynamic and need constant attention — not good fit for To-Do list. Take life as it comes
As Charles Bukowski stated
“I needed a vacation. I needed 5 women. I needed to get the wax out of my ears. My car needed an oil change. I’d failed to file my damned income tax. One of the stems had broken off of my reading glasses. There were ants in my apartment. I needed to get my teeth cleaned. My shoes were run down at the heels. I had insomnia. My auto insurance had expired. I cut myself every time i shaved. I hadn’t laughed in 6 years. I tended to worry when there was nothing to worry about. And when there was something to worry about, i got drunk.”