what people call dreams or ideals is not something to achieve or fail. they are more like panels left by previous visitors in a forest, indicating their particular paths. you can make these yours and try to follow the one of your choice, or disregard them all and just roam around. everything we inherit is the first panel we find on our path, our supposed choices are the panels we find next. some spend their time just looking at the panels, some use them as a guide, some disregard them. but in the end, it is just a walk in the woods, until we happen to find ourselves out of it.