Failure, Joy, The Comparing Mind, and Fear

Follow-Up Reading from my Conversation with Undergrads

I had the privilege of speaking with 40 Yale students this Saturday at the Careers, Life, and Yale Leadership Forum. I spoke about my personal and leadership journey, and the students asked amazing follow-up questions. Here are the links I shared with them.

On Avoiding Comparison with Peers

Money itself is not a source of joy, once basics are met

The day I became a millionaire

Remember that you’re a “Tribe of 1”

"Don't Compare Yourself to Others" - The Envy Problem

Daniel Kahneman’s research on how “emotional well-being” doesn’t increase beyond $75k/year

High income improves evaluation of life but not emotional well-being

Research on: Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic goal orientation

Be careful what you wish for: Optimal functioning and the relative attainment of intrinsic and…

Self-Judgement

Manage the ratio of self-love to self-criticism (75%/25%)

Failure

Carol Dweck’s book “Mindset” covers different approaches.

A great summary by Maria Popova:

Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives

Focusing on the “Journey” vs. the “Goal”

An amazing poem “The Station” by Robert Hastings:

Radical Candor

This is one of my favorite leadership concepts:

Radical Candor - The Surprising Secret to Being a Good Boss

And the graphic:

Timeless wisdom from the Tao Te Ching

I highly recommend purchasing the Steven Mitchell translation

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