ACKNOWLEDGEMENT, not IGNORANCE is BLISS!
Sometimes you enter into arguments with your parents, your siblings, maybe boss or friends. What’s your immediate response to it? Are you a giver? Do you try to calm things down? Or do you just walk out and may be go for a walk with earphone plugged in? How do you come to terms with it?
The crack is that you need to rethink the whole situation once again. You need to see where things went wrong, who was at fault and what can be done to get it back to square one.
In case you are the culprit, are you able to own it up? Are you able to stand up to it and apologise? If yes, then you are doing great and if no, then you need to start acknowledging what is wrong. Nobody is born perfect. Had that been the case all of us would be creating a new Eden every second day. But we can at least aim to become less shoddy on our part.
We become adamant in admitting that we are wrong because that way we know that we will be able to convince ourselves about our wrong doing and correcting that would mean moving out of the comfort zone which obviously is the not a sought after way. By not correcting it we are being ignorant about not just our behaviour towards others and how it is negatively affecting them but we are also giving ourselves a second chance at hurting another person or maybe ourselves, and this time intentionally.
Think about a hypothetical situation: Imagine your boss asks you to write an article on a topic which is totally alien to you. You sit there on your chair fretting about how to write it and what if your boss just blew off after reading it. You do your research and write the article somehow. Now you need to submit it. This is when you realise that maybe this is something totally irrelevant and your boss might just scold you to fits. Relax! Take a deep breath and go and show it to him. At max your boss will ask you to rewrite it with some amendments.
You did a great job by moving out of your comfort zone and attempting something that wasn’t even your forte. Pat on your back! Did it contribute something? Yes, you got to learn about something totally alien to your knowledge. Had you given up, you would never have been able to learn that plus your boss might have had an impact that you love being on the cushiony side.
What has to change is your attitude towards the situations around you. Own up to the mistakes that your boss pointed out in that article, tell yourself that you can and you will write better this time and do not submit till you yourself are satisfied with it. It is immensely moving and motivating when you self realise and self introspect into what went wrong and how you had a share in it.
This was about you taking a stand and owning up to your mistakes. But what about the situations where you are being exploited? You need to tell yourself “This can’t go on.” When you know you are gaining that unhealthy extra pound, when you know that “friend” of yours is trying to step on you, when you know you have work but you want to watch just one more episode of Game of Thrones (which you know is not the last one you’d be watching), when you know you are not moving in the right direction- IT HAS TO STOP! Say that to yourself and see the profound change it brings.
Acknowledgement, my friend, is a bliss. Try acknowledging where the tides are heading and you will find yourself heading towards a huge change. You need to know your instincts, your reactions towards situations. Your body and mind might react in a totally different fashion but find that equilibrium and you are good to go.
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