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How to Break Free from the Opinionated Noise
Dismantle any argument by moving from the subjective to the objective

“Opinions are like a-holes; everyone has one.” So says the axiom.
I think I’m tired of suffocating from stench left by all the exposed opinionated buttocks.
Today, we can say anything we want or do anything we want. There is little recourse because we argue against what others say or do. Sure, we have our logic, ideology, or religious reasoning to assert why their way is wrong and our way is right.
The angrier the opinion, the more pungent the stink.
Is there a way to find fresh air of reason that isn’t just opinion?
Yes.
And it changes the way you see the world.
It did for me.
Twenty years ago, I came to a realization that transformed my world, my relationships, my status, and my bank account.
It brought me into the purview of highly influential people. It has allowed me to speak at numerous events and conferences. It’s influenced the six books I’ve written and published.
It’s had ramifications across every domain I exist, interact, and speak about.
I can summarize it in a single sentence, but I hope to clarify it.
The world doesn’t spin on the actions of its inhabitants; it turns on the outcomes of those actions.
The predominant focus of all our arguments, disagreements, and assertions is based on actions. We speak to –or against– what people do, believe, or say. There is NO WAY to argue like this without the conversation ending in morality, judgmental bias, or fists.
It does grant us the ability to categorize and segment, separating us into groups of people who believe the same way we do. We rest in the safety of those who think and act similarly to us.
But how do we know what we believe is beneficial to us? To all of us?
We don’t.
Because we tend to focus on right and wrong rather than on what is beneficial or detrimental.