Writing is a difficult and lonely life. Do it anyway.

Being a writer can be isolating and really, really hard. But it’s also enormously fulfilling every step of the way.

Brian Rowe
Oct 13, 2019 · 3 min read
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Writing isn’t something you should go into lightly.

And trust me, it doesn’t get any easier. I wrote my twentieth novel this past summer, and it was just as hard as every other novel I’ve written.

Because you’ve been so immersed in your amazing story and your fascinating characters that real life actually feels like the fiction sometimes, not the other way around.

It’s often hard when you’re in the midst of a new writing project to give real life your all. Even though when you’re by yourself all day you feel like you should be spending more time with other people. And then of course when you’re with those people, you want to go right back into the isolation of your writing room. Oh, the irony.

But you know what? Do it anyway.

You’re going to struggle coming up with new ideas. Have trouble figuring out a basic outline to your latest story. Think for weeks and weeks about your characters and what makes them unique, what makes them tick.

Do it anyway.

You’re going to struggle in your writing from day one. You might stare at a blank page for an hour or longer, trying a bunch of new first sentences which you then quickly delete. You’ll enter week two, week three, in a state of total despair because the writing of your new novel isn’t matching what you envisioned in your head. It’s 10%, 20%, of the book you wanted to write.

Do it anyway.

You’re going to have days when you want to quit. Days where the words just aren’t coming. You’ll be halfway through the novel but want to abandon it and move onto something else. You’ll feel at times that you totally suck and that you have no business writing. You’ll want to pull your hair out and pound your fist against the wall and scream at the top of your lungs.

Trust me, I’m telling you — keep writing anyway.

Because every writer feels like this.

Every writer has moments of self-doubt in the drafting process, in the revising process. In the before, during, and after of writing. To have no doubt at all and think you’re the greatest writer in history is not a place you want to be. That kind of thinking will get you nowhere.

If the idea of sitting in dark rooms for years on end creating new stories and characters doesn’t interest you, then by all means, do something else. If the idea of writing compels you, though, you need to give yourself over to it, and remember always that it’s going to be difficult, it’s going to be lonely.

But at the same time, it’s so very worth it. The writer’s life is a great life, never forget that.

Read. Watch. Write. Repeat.

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