A woman’s highest level of self-discipline
Some time ago, I saw writer Larry recalling her mother’s words:
“I admire an old lady who is nearly ninety years old. When she wakes up every morning, she only puts on a light layer of powder on her face before walking out of the bedroom door. She has been doing this for decades.”
Even at an advanced age, the old lady is still energetic and lives a delicate life.
Suddenly I realized that there is always a kind of woman whose charm will not fade away easily with the growth of age and the passage of time.
Even if they are naked, they can easily become the most dazzling presence in the crowd.
This is often not because they are naturally beautiful, but because they spend more time managing themselves, operating themselves, and sculpting themselves.
As the saying goes, “Being beautiful is an advantage, living a beautiful life is a skill.”
The true beauty of a woman comes from self-discipline.
1. The most economical self-discipline is to make money
Some people say that the most gullible love words for women are “I will support you.”
No matter what wonderful encounters you have in life, don’t give yourself to others easily.
The recent news of the divorce of a famous talk show actress Arianna just proves this point.
When she married her husband, he was a wealthy and wealthy man who graduated from Harvard Business School, but she was just an ordinary-looking, penniless newcomer talk show performer.
She fantasized about becoming a wealthy wife through marriage and living a “sleeping” life, but reality slapped her hard.
Not only was she required to sign a prenuptial agreement, but she also discovered that her husband was $70,000 in debt.
This means that she cannot share her husband’s income after marriage and has to repay the debt together with him.
So Arianna decided to start the “crazy money making” mode and insisted on performing talk shows on stage even when she was pregnant and about to give birth.
She examines her life with an almost harsh attitude. While taking care of her children and housework, she looks for various opportunities to go on stage to polish her jokes and expression skills, and constantly improve herself.
After years of self-discipline, she became famous to the east and west coasts of the United States and even the world, earning far more wealth than a “rich family” could give her.
Interestingly, when she chose to divorce, the prenuptial agreement her husband’s family asked her to sign ended up protecting her property.
Arianna’s marriage and life just illustrate that a woman’s spiritual independence is always based on economic independence.
A woman who learns to make money will turn the pursuit of money into the pursuit of self-worth, and thus aspire to become better;
And a woman who doesn’t know how to make money can only gradually haggard and wither in the days with her palms facing up.
Regarding making money:
“If you are not married yet, listen to me and make money first.
If you are married and have no children, listen to me and make money first.
If you are married with kids but still young, listen to me, you still have to make money.
Especially for women, making money is both independence and capital. “
The realistic basis of all self-discipline is the ability to make money. This applies to every woman.
2. The most beautiful self-discipline is fitness
The body is everyone’s temple. No matter what is enshrined in it, it should be kept strong, beautiful, and clean.
The simplest and most direct way to keep your body strong and beautiful is to exercise.
In life, many people call themselves fitness experts, but they often only spend three days fishing and two days drying the net.
Real fitness is not just about temporary fatness or thinness, but a desire to improve oneself and a self-discipline that brings oneself closer to the ideal state.
I remember when I was watching the variety show “, I was deeply impressed by Model’s self-discipline.
At the beginning of the show, she admitted that she is prone to obesity and relies on hard exercise and diet control to maintain her figure.
Sure enough, in the schedule shown later, she was almost “racing against time” to exercise.
As soon as she opens her eyes in the morning, she will do a few warm-up exercises while brushing her teeth;
After returning home after a busy day, she does squats while taking off her makeup;
During her free time, while applying the facial mask, she laid out a mat and started doing yoga.
Once, she ordered takeout fried chicken for the entire team, and her castmate jokingly persuaded her to eat a piece. She carefully tore off the outer skin of the fried chicken and took a small bite of the chicken.
As soon as she turned her head, she silently increased her fitness for the day.
Compared with those celebrities who are willing to show off their “eat without getting fat” persona, She is more real and calm.
Many guests on the show lamented that she was too “cruel” to them.
She replied seriously:
“If you don’t pay attention to these now, you have to see who will age faster in ten years.”
Host Du Haitao asked her how she felt compared to ten years ago.
“I’m in a better place now than I was ten years ago,” she said with a smile.
The beauty gained with every drop of sweat, every workout, and every day of self-discipline will last longer and make people more at ease.
This is the most important meaning of fitness for women.
3. The healthiest self-discipline is to go to bed early
Many people think that self-discipline is a kind of consumption and demand.
Truly healthy self-discipline is a pleasant and efficient “charging station”.
Working and resting on time, eating regularly, going to bed early and getting up early, these seemingly insignificant things hide the simplest form of self-discipline.
Recently, an old friend posted a post on Moments that made people sigh.
She lamented that she had been holding herself to the strictest standards for the past three years and focusing all her energy on her career.
The hardest time was when I went to bed at 3 a.m. every day for a week and went to work again at 8 a.m.
Over the past few years, she felt that her physical condition was not good, her writing was often inconsistent, and her memory had become worse. She was afraid that she would fall one day and never wake up again.
In life, many people are like this friend. They think they are “self-disciplined”, but they are just putting the cart before the horse and “self-destructing”.
What she needs to change is her daily routine.
If she tries to go to bed a few hours earlier, she may find that her overall mental state and health will be significantly improved without major changes in sleeping and working hours.
This is exactly the case for another friend who has a second child.
She has a son and a daughter to take care of, and the new business she is responsible for is just getting started, but she is full of energy every time I see her, and she can spare more than two hours a day to spend with her children.
She once half-jokingly said that this was all due to going to bed at nine o’clock in the evening.
She tries her best to fall asleep at the same time every day after putting her children to sleep and gets up before six in the morning to greet her energetic children.
While most of the family was still asleep, she had already taken her baby out for a walk and exercise.
Comparing the two, it is not difficult to see that going to bed early may not be suitable for everyone, but insisting on going to bed early is a “health investment” worth persisting in.
“I always believe that going to bed early and getting up early is good for your health. Only people with good health have all the rights to choose and be chosen.”
Only self-discipline based on maintaining health can be sustained for a long time.
4. The most self-discipline that changes your temperament is reading
As the saying goes, “The spirit of poetry and literature comes from within”. Among the many daily self-discipline habits, reading may not be the one that brings about the most significant changes, but it must be the one with the most far-reaching influence.
I remember that broadcast, many people were attracted by the debater who was full of witty words and full of aura.
Few people know that many years ago, was an ordinary girl who depended on her mother and lived in poverty.
She once said on the show that when she was a child, she was forced to make a living in a rice barn and had to live with mice.
But her life of extreme poverty did not dampen her fighting spirit. From childhood to adulthood, Fu Seoul’s grades have always been among the best. She understands that only reading can change her life.
After coming to Beijing to study at university, she was exposed to the glamorous world for the first time, but she did not waste her good years on having fun.
Instead, she spent all her time outside of work and life reading, seizing every opportunity to practice her writing and eloquence, and step by step she became the eloquent variety show regular she is today.
What’s even more rare is that even after achieving worldly success, Fu Seoul has never shied away from the significance of reading to himself.
She once said on the show:
“Life is like an Olympic Games. We are born and raised on the track and have to run at our best throughout our lives.
In those years, I worked during the day and read and wrote at night after my children were put to sleep.
If today I make my friends in the audience feel that I have some radiance, it is because I spent the most beautiful years of a woman on that bench. “
There are always people who think that reading is useless, but that’s just because people who think so don’t insist on reading.
“Many times, I may think that many of the books I have read have become a passing cloud and can no longer be remembered, but they still have potential.
In temperament, in conversation, in the boundless mind, of course, it may also be revealed in life and writing. “
If self-discipline makes people different, then using reading as a self-discipline must be the most advanced and wisest of these changes.
Regarding self-discipline, I read a passage:
I have no faith in anything that’s easy, fast, instinctive, improvised, vague.
I believe in the power of slowness, peace, steady flow, and calmness.
I do not believe that one can achieve personal or collective liberation without self-discipline, self-construction, or hard work.
Life is never a few minutes or dozens of days in front of you, but a long journey of decades.
For women, the greatest significance of self-discipline is not just changes in body appearance, but the control over life and the determination to say “I can” to the world.
Self-discipline sounds hard, but it also has another name: “All your wishes come true.”
I hope every woman can truly be friends with self-discipline and make self-discipline a habit, an attempt, and a source of happiness.
Please believe that there will never be a time when hard work is in vain in this world. Self-discipline will make you live better in ten years than you do now.
At that time, you will thank yourself for deciding to be self-disciplined at this moment.
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