My First Meal at His House Turned into a Lesson in Respect!
The first time I went to my boyfriend’s house, I ate prawns in the kitchen because I was too hungry, and my boyfriend’s mom told me that I was “rude and disrespectful to the elders”!
A young woman’s first visit to her boyfriend’s house was marred by a hiccup. Because she was so hungry, she ate 2 prawns in the kitchen, but her boyfriend’s mother found out about it.
The scene triggered the mother’s displeasure as she felt the girl lacked manners and respect for her elders.
Many in-laws set high standards for their daughters-in-law, believing that they have to do everything they can to be considered qualified, but they don’t have the same high standards for themselves.
But some people think it’s basic manner, and it’s the girl’s fault. When something happens, a thousand people will have a thousand opinions. It’s not about right or wrong, it’s all about personal choices, and the results will be different.
Let’s take a look at what happened, and then you can decide how you feel about it.
The first to eat the prawns is hungry and is accused of impoliteness.
The girl accompanied her boyfriend home to meet the parents, this was the first time she went to her boyfriend’s house.
They left at 11:00 a.m. and arrived at his home at 4:00 p.m. The two of them were not able to reach his home.
After arriving at his home, they only chatted over tea in the living room, but no food was served.
As the girl had not eaten since 10:00 a.m. and had not eaten during the drive, she expressed her hunger to her boyfriend.
The boyfriend decided to have an early dinner and cooked her favorite prawns in a dry pot. (The boyfriend’s mother prepared other dishes)
The girl then went into the kitchen to help, and when she saw the freshly cooked prawns, she couldn’t help but eat a couple of them first.
When her boyfriend’s mother came into the kitchen to get the chopsticks, she was slightly surprised and asked the girl if she was hungry.
The girl blushed and explained, “Auntie, I feel hungrier after drinking the tea ……”. The boyfriend’s mother frowned and didn’t say anything, but during the meal, the girl sensed her displeasure and felt uneasy inside.
When the girl returned home, she asked her boyfriend urgently if there was anything wrong with her mother.
The boyfriend revealed that her mother had originally planned to give her $500 for the gift, but due to her dissatisfaction with the girl’s behavior, she only gave her a gift of $200.
The girl asked her boyfriend what he thought of her behavior, and he explained, “It’s rude and disrespectful for you to eat before the elders in the family have started eating.
The girl felt aggrieved and pointed out that her boyfriend had not defended her.
The boyfriend admitted that he had communicated with his mother, who said that she would observe her behavior and would not judge her based on a single act.
He plans to bring the girl home again next month so that she can cook to make up for her image.
Although the girl is seriously in love with her boyfriend, she is dissatisfied with her boyfriend’s mother’s reduction of red packets due to trivial matters.
The incident sparked heated debates online, with some netizens criticizing the girl for being hungry during her first visit to another person’s home, saying that her behavior showed a lack of parenting.
Other netizens thought that the family failed to treat their guests well and even asked them to cook when they visited again.
There is no absolute right or wrong in this matter, from different perspectives there will be different results, everyone cares about different points, and things will be different.
However, I have always believed that people will have a more tolerant view of many things if they have love.
The girl ate 2 prawns in the kitchen first because she was too hungry.
The girl ate the prawns in the kitchen because she was hungry. She did not mean to be disrespectful, but if she magnifies it and thinks that it is impolite for the elders not to eat it and the younger generation to eat it, then it becomes very bad behavior.
However, one should look at the heart of a person rather than making an arbitrary judgment by magnifying a small matter. If she is that harsh, most people will not be satisfied with her.
Many mothers-in-law are so bad in personality that their son’s girlfriends break up with them as soon as they meet her.
If the boyfriend’s family is very rich, some women may put up with it because of the money, but if it is just an ordinary family with such high demands, no one wants to be angry.
When you go to your boyfriend’s house, not only will they observe you, but you can also observe them.
If you love each other, you won’t be too critical of each other. If the girl thinks this way, I think there are a lot of things about her boyfriend’s family that she’s not happy with.
The more you like to pick on people, the worse off you will be, because no one in his world is good to him.
A lack of gratitude is a sign of a bad life, but Shirasakura believes that as long as there is love between the two parties, there is no problem at all, but it’s a very small matter.
If a more generous mother-in-law finds out, she will take more things for the girl to eat, or hurry to open the meal, so that she can have a good meal.
Isn’t this very warm? The so-called rules of etiquette are a way of showing respect, not demanding or misunderstanding others in small matters.
The boyfriend didn’t try to protect the girl, but favored the mother’s side, thinking that her lack of courtesy was a problem, didn’t he see it at the time? He didn’t stop her either, so is he impolite?
A lot of people who don’t have an opinion, see their parents dislike their girlfriends, and then follow suit, forgetting to show respect for others.
This is why women don’t want to get married. Marriage brings them a lot of frustration.
I’ve seen a daughter-in-law who is very good at making money. Her mother-in-law saw that she was rich, and she was very nice to her before the marriage, and she acted very friendly.
After the marriage, she kept asking her for things, and she bought whatever she wanted to fulfill her filial piety.
However, her mother-in-law was still not satisfied and asked her to cook and hand-wash her clothes, and even asked for more when she got it, which was not reasonable at all.
A woman who can make money has no time to do housework for her like this.
Seeing that her daughter-in-law buys her everything she wants, and finally asks for a fixed monthly allowance, she steps on her daughter-in-law’s bottom line and falls out with her.
She was lucky to meet such a generous daughter-in-law, but her greed drove her away.
A lot of men can not get married or after marriage live like a dog, is because the mother will not think, has been a difficult daughter-in-law, the good daughter-in-law forced into a bad daughter-in-law.
Of course, there are also cases where kind mothers-in-law encounter poorly-mannered daughters-in-law, but we are analyzing the situation where the daughters-in-law have no problems.
I am writing this article in the hope that we can all get along with others in a more loving way and not be so mean.
We are not born into a royal family, so there is no need to have so many rules, whether a person has respect for you, not from such a small thing to see, will only be an inaccurate judgment, and lose the hearts of people.
Also want to remind the girls, that when you have better conditions, the more you do not have to tolerate such in-laws.
Imagine, if you have a very low income, your appearance is not good, it is hard to meet a seemingly good boy, see his mother is difficult to get along with, and you will not also be patient to accept. Because you’re afraid that you won’t be able to find a better one.
But if you are so good that there is a long line of guys chasing you, will you still put up with it? Probably only those who are in love due to lack of love will choose to compromise themselves.
So loving yourself and improving yourself is always the best solution to the problem.
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