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A First Time User’s Guide to Butt Plugs

Demeter V Delune
Real Sex & Love
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5 min readMar 24, 2025

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Butt plugs may seem a little taboo, but a lot of women swear by them as a source of pleasure. The first time using a butt plug can be daunting. Of course, they’re not just for women. With butt plugs, it doesn’t matter your gender identity or what you have in your pants. You can enjoy the pleasure of this amazing toy no matter what. For people with a penis, there’s prostate pleasure, and for folks with a vulva, butt plugs press on the back of the vaginal wall, increasing intensity and pleasure.

Even if you are intrigued, chances are you’re not going to run out and buy a toy for butt play without knowing what you’re getting yourself into. Right? They can help you switch up your routine while warming up your body for new things. Whatever the reason you’re keen to dive into the world of butt plug play, there are a few things you should know for a comfortable, safe, and sexy experience.

Why Use a Butt Plug?

Similar to the c-spot and G-spot, there are tons of ultra-sensitive nerve endings in your back door. That means stimulating it can bring you a ton of sexual pleasure whether you’re playing with yourself or with a partner. And, depending on how the plug is used, the female skene glands (also known as…

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Real Sex & Love
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Published in Real Sex & Love

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Demeter V Delune
Demeter V Delune

Written by Demeter V Delune

S*x educator, Freelance Writer for hire, Journalist. Words in Passionfruit, Pleaser, MamaMia, Giddy, Petit Mort, Daily Dot, Your Tango| demeterdelune.com

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