Why Erotica Will Free Your Mind

The truth behind the fantasies

Matilda Swinney
Aug 22, 2020 · 3 min read
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A month or so ago, I noticed my sex blog posts were getting more and more explicit. So, as an outlet for my obviously horny mind, I decided to make a clear distinction between the two and start writing erotica. This would allow my sex posts to stay more explorative and educational, while leaving room for the truly explicit content.

It’s been an interesting decision. I’ve discovered I love writing erotica. How did I not realise this before? It seems obvious to me now, as I have always read a lot of dirty stories.

The thing is, it’s the hardcore stories, which are my favourite

But, by honestly exploring what turns you on, you can understand your reality better. While you might not like the same thing as someone else, or want your favourite erotic stories to come true, you can still learn a lot about yourself from your choice of erotica.

As Linda Garnets, PhD, a researcher at the University of California at Los Angeles, explains, “our erotic personalities are as unique as our fingerprints, and our sexual identities, sexual attractions, and sexual fantasies don’t all have to fit together seamlessly (and they also likely change over time).”

So, although you may not want your fantasies to come true, the written word can help you to understand exactly what turns you on. From there, you can explore in more detail exactly what it is about a story which turns you on and pick and choose what you want to re-create in real life.

Erotica also teaches you to embrace your desires and not feel ashamed

The large majority of us share the most common fantasies, but can feel too shy to talk about them. But, by reading or even writing erotica, you inject fun and entertainment into your desires. You give yourself an increased confidence and awareness of your own pleasure.

You take the initiative and figure out what you really like. And this is the only way you will be able to open up freely during sex, in order to receive the pleasure you deserve. Having the confidence to explore and express your desires will open you up more than you could ever expect.

A recent study has shown that consuming sexy literature can help everything from your libido to the strength of your orgasm. A 2016 study, which was published in the journal Sexual and Relationship Therapy, recorded the sexual functioning of 27 women over six weeks. Half read self-help books, and the other half read erotic fiction. The result? Both groups made equal, statistically significant gains when it came to:

  • sexual desire
  • sexual arousal
  • lubrication
  • satisfaction
  • orgasms
  • pain reduction
  • overall sexual functioning”

So, who knew erotica could be such a rewarding and beneficial part of life?

Try adding a daily dose of naughty literature to your diet and see how free, confident and open it makes you feel. It’s time to explore your desires and find your true pleasure.

Ready to put yourself first? It’s time to free your mind and find your pleasure.

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Matilda Swinney

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Real Talk About Sex

Let the power of the spoken word celebrate your deepest desires and truth

Matilda Swinney

Written by

Exploring sex, life & mental health | P.S I Love You | Mind Cafe | Learn how to go from $0 to $1000 in three months on Medium https://pages.matildaswinney.com/

Real Talk About Sex

Let the power of the spoken word celebrate your deepest desires and truth

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