Why Say or Write “I Appreciate You” When Thanking Others?

Gavin Hurley
Nov 2 · 4 min read

Understanding the powerful persuasive dimensions of the phrase

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I scrawl my signature on the food and drink bill at a rooftop German pub called Luft in downtown Bismarck, North Dakota. I nod to the suspender-wearing server and tell him “thanks.” He reciprocates the gratitude. Then, before walking away, he says, “I appreciate you.”

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Gavin Hurley

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Ph.D., communication coach, and writing consultant. Author of essays/books on the rhetorical arts, persuasion, and practical philosophy http://gavinfhurley.com

Reality. Persuasion. Communication.

This publication analyzes, coaches, and motivates communication strategies and tactics. The objective: to foster empowered professional and personal communication lifestyles.

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