Dependence Relationships

Reality Transurfing by Vadim Zeland

The relationship of dependency happens by the following scenario: “If you love me, you would leave everything and come with me to the end of the world. If you do not marry me, you do not love me. If you praise me, we’ll be friends. If you do not give me my blade, I’ll drive you out of the sand. “

When love goes into relationship of dependence, polarization inevitably appears and the balance is disrupted. Unconditional love is love without right of possession, without admiration and adoration. In other words, this feeling does not create a relationship of dependence between the one who loves, and the object of his/her love.

“Standing on a stone jetty on the ocean, a couple shares a tender moment” by Teddy Kelley on Unsplash

The balance is violated when something is compared to something else or confronts it: “We are like this, but they are different!” For example, national pride — compared to which nations? Sense of inferiority — compared to whom? Or being proud of ourselves — compared to whom?

Where opposition exists, balancing forces get inevitably involved. Their action is directed either towards “separating” the subjects of controversy, or towards uniting them, for mutual agreement or conflict. If polarization is created by you, the effect of the balancing forces will be mainly directed against you.


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