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What Do You Do When Things Get too Reciprocal?

I’m not so familiar with this feeling. Help me out here!

Fatunla Samuel
Reciprocal
Published in
3 min readSep 8, 2023

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Young man sitting a lone thinking about reciprocation.
Photo by Hannah Busing on Unsplash

Don’t I think too wild?…

I once thought about the negatives of being a good person. I wrote about it, I published it, and I then thought it was a foolish idea. But I was surprised to see that so many folks agree that there might be some bad in being good.

Now, it’s reciprocity. A rather vague idea.

Not many people think about being reciprocal, but for those who do. You’ll agree that, at some point, it can become too much.

So, what do you do when things get too reciprocal?

I’m an English speaker from Nigeria, so I know what reciprocation means. But I still get guilt-tripped just by the mere thought of it.

Meanwhile, a simple definition in Cambridge Dictionary states that reciprocity is the behavior in which two people or groups of people agree to give each other help and advantages. In this case, it could be intentional and planned but also tiring.

I once got too reciprocal in love.

In this case, it was intentional and planned. I had watched too many movies and…

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Fatunla Samuel
Reciprocal

I write personal essays and reflective pieces that draw from my life experiences. Owner Be Nigerian Pub | Civil Engineer 👩‍🚒