Behind Your Brain, Understanding The Complex Psychology of Break Ups
And why throwing a stone into the sea is a great way to understand why you’ll always end up in bed with your ex.
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Let’s do some arty visualisation first. Then we’ll drill into the Psychology.
Take a deep breath. Imagine yourself standing on a stony beach. No… although it might be tempting if you’ve just broken up with someone, don’t walk out to sea. Things aren’t that bad.
Instead, imagine you’ve picked up a stone. I bet you want to throw it out to sea? That’s what almost everyone does if you give them this scenario.
Human beings toss stones into water. They like the splash.
It’s a futile exercise that serves no purpose. What it shows is that humans have a propensity to interact with their environment. We have an internal reward system that operates when we show competence.
In short, we get a little happiness kick when we cause an effect on the world. If you’ve ever wondered why humans love skimming stones, popping…
