Why I Finally Decided to Hit the Publish Button
And Why You Should Too
I’ve been writing for a couple years now. I started because I enjoyed getting my thoughts and feelings out of my head and into something else. It became cathartic for me to take those pent-up emotions and let go through the writing process.
Along with the occasional ramblings, I started a book about self-improvement as well as one about a favorite subject of mine, ZOMBIES!
Most of it was bad. And some of what I’ve published so far may still be bad.
But, until the beginning of the year, all of it was saved on my computer and visible to only me. I wrote but never put anything out there for the world to see.
I was afraid and had no self-confidence. After seeing all of the good writers on this platform and elsewhere, I believed there was no way anyone would want to read what I had written.
But I am happy to say I was wrong. I received a lot of great feedback which gave me the confidence to continue to write.
I’ll be honest, that button still scares me sometimes. I still struggle with thoughts of not being good enough. But every time I push that button, those thoughts get less and less vocal. I have begun to make what was once uncomfortable, comfortable.
Despite all the errors I’ve made and despite all the writing rules I’m sure I’m breaking, I still hit that button.
I do it because I finally decided I do not have anything to prove to anyone except myself.
There are going to be people who hate my writing and there are going to be others who like it. I am never going to please everyone.
But I do have to please myself.
I also no longer care about what others who dislike my writing think. If someone has a problem with my thoughts or my writing, that is their problem, not mine. I’m also not perfect. I am going to make mistakes and I am going to say some things which people might not agree with. I’m human.
Yet, I’m not responsible for your feelings towards me.
Avoid The Haters
There are people in this world whose purpose is to spread hate. They can be vile, ignorant and will disagree with you no matter what. They will waste your time and try to get you upset.
You have to ignore these people. They are not worth wasting your energy on. Instead, save your energy for your writing. Save your energy for things which you can control.
In reality, though, most people are more concerned about their own writing or their own issues to spend the time critiquing every aspect of your writing. Sure, there are going to be people who will hate you and your writing.
But, when we become so concerned with what others will think, we allow them to control us. By taking their words as truth, we give them power over us.
In his book, The Four Agreements, the author Don Miguel Ruiz discusses ways to overcome these self-limiting beliefs many of us have. One of the ways is to never take anything personally. He states,
“Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.”
People who are critical of everything you do have their own personal issues. They cannot deal with these issues, so they will take them out on whoever they disagree with. And at some point, that negativity will be directed at you.
Don’t allow what others say or do stop you from doing what you want. Whether it be writing or anything else, you are always going to face detractors and negative people.
Be better than them.
Why You Should Hit The Button Too
If you’ve been procrastinating, struggling with self-doubt, self-confidence or just plain old fear, I urge you to hit that button.
It truly is liberating to finally overcome the fear and self-doubt.
But, the reason you should hit the publish button is that your story matters.
Publishing your story can not only help you overcome the self-doubt and lack of confidence but as a bonus, you will also help others who are in the same situation.
No matter what your story may be, we all have unique experiences and perspectives we can share. We all have different ways of explaining those experiences as well.
What you share can be the difference for a stranger who is reading your words. You can have an enormous impact on someone you’ve never met. For me, this is another incentive to hit the publish button.
And it also why you should too.
Originally published on February 20, 2018. It has been edited, improved, and Recycled.
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