What Happened in 2018 Doesn’t Matter

Tomorrow is Always a New Day

Photo by Alex Iby on Unsplash

Just stop. You aren’t going to complete all of those resolutions. I hope you complete some of them, but isn’t making a giant list of things you have to do this coming year a bit overwhelming? So much so that on January 2 when you forget to meditate, you will just pitch everything because making that list was stupid.

Give yourself a break. What happened in 2018 doesn’t matter because tomorrow is always a new day. Did you make some terrible decisions in 2018? All of us did. You aren’t alone. Could you have exercised more? Sure, same here. Could you have volunteered more often? Uh huh, I need to check that box too.

But holy sh*t, don’t sum up your year by only focusing on your best and worst moments. Because even if you do, tomorrow is still a clean slate. If you did nothing good in 2018, you can still do something good tomorrow. Just one thing.

You can walk around the block. You can sit silently for one minute. You can call a friend you haven’t talked to in five years. You can do something good. You can pay for a stranger’s coffee. You can let that driver in. It’s not that hard.

What makes it hard is the long list that you are working on now. No matter what you write down, you probably aren’t going to accomplish all of it. Not because you are lazy, but because some of the stuff won’t be important.

What makes it hard is the long list of failures you are punishing yourself for. No matter what you are mad at yourself for, you can’t change it. Not because you are a sociopath, but because it’s gone.

Today you may think exercising every day is a must. But in three days you will realize that you need a day off once in a while. Today you may think you have to write 1,000 words a day to be successful. But in February you are going to be out of gas and wordless.

Tomorrow can be anything. Don’t think your year is ruined because you can’t keep up with your own unrealistic expectations.

“And now we welcome the new year. Full of things that have never been.”
— Rainer Maria Rilke
Photo by Val Vesa on Unsplash

Why What Happened in 2018 Doesn’t Matter

Because it already happened. You can’t change the past. Yes, you can learn from it and you should, but it’s gone. It’s a memory. All the years we have lived have been building blocks for 2019, but none of those blocks require us to use them. We can start a new project. We can start from scratch.

Do you want to spend 2019 looking back or living in the present?

We put so much pressure on ourselves to be better than last year. But what if last year was a good year? What if we get sick this year? It doesn’t mean this year is going to be a failure. It just means we are going to learn different things.

It’s true that if you don’t learn from your mistakes, you are likely to repeat them. But your New Year’s resolutions on that piece of scrap paper aren’t going to change that. You don’t have to dwell on your mistakes to do better tomorrow. Just do something different. One thing. And when you do, every day before that where you didn’t do that one thing won’t matter.

2018 doesn’t matter. Because tomorrow is a new year. Tomorrow is always a new day. Stop looking to the end of the year to change your behavior. It’s just another day. Tomorrow is always just another day. A new day.

Photo by Joshua Rawson-Harris on Unsplash