Arrg, Our Ability to Choose has Been Hijacked for an Hourly Wage!
Credit: NMSquirrel, Religion Corresopondent
“You and your dad are two different people.” — Anonymous
There is a process I have observed as we are growing up. We are our kids best parent, our genes that get transferred determine this, which mean our kids are exactly like us, when it comes to what motivates them. We as Parents are responsible for motivating our kids anyway. We should understand what motivates us, so we can motivate them to give us less crap and still try to raise them to think for themselves. This may seem futile as we have been conditioned that it is Moral to Obey, not to question. So when do we get to grow up and make our own choices?
When we get to a certain age, puberty, we struggle with ‘who’ we are, as parents we want to guide our children through this ‘transition’ phase, to make it easier for them, but the very act of helping pushes them farther away from us, making us feel like failures, as though we are unable to help our own children succeed.
In this context, our kids do not distance themselves from us because they do not love us, they distance themselves so they can separate who they are, from who we are, to be able to distinguish between what their parents think of as right/wrong and what they think of as right/wrong. This is an attempt to ‘Own’ their own Morality…..
This process gets confounded, confused, hijacked, imposed, bullied, etc, etc, by the people who try to get you to act like them, so they can feel good about who they are. We struggle with the difference between what we were taught was ‘right’ and what we ‘feel’ is right.
Also, this process gets hijacked because this is around the same age as when we have to start working, so the ‘obey’ narrative from our childhood, gets reinforced by the Workplace. ‘Do as you’re told’ is justifiable in the workplace because we don’t know what we are doing starting out, so we accept ‘do as you’re told’ and transfer this onto our sense of moral right and wrong because we can’t pay the rent if we don’t ‘obey.’
We still are not allowed to determine what is right and what is wrong for ourselves. We have been conditioned by the Workplace to let others do it for us. We have sold our ability to choose for ourselves for an hourly wage.