HOW TO DEAL WITH NEGATIVE PEOPLE
Hey Re-inventors!
So you guys might have noticed, that many of my recent posts revolve around POSITIVITY; and that is simply because I believe in that with all my heart.
But we know that life is not full of positive people and apparently I can see that more people are sad, negative and drama filled rather than being positive.
In interactions and conversations with such people, what happens is that the positive people who preserve their energy and always focus on the good, start losing their positivity.
This is simply because NEGATIVE people DRAIN the POSITIVE ones of their energy and this frustrates me a lot.
Let us now talk about the solution to this problem.
If the negative person is such that can be easily removed from your life, then do it. Stop talking often to that person and do not lend your ear to such negative people who talk shit all day.
BUT, if the person is a significant part of your daily life, such as your spouse, daughter, son, father, mother, colleague, superior etc. then YOU CANNOT simply cut them off.
Then you should first and foremost, deploy my favorite solution, EMPATHY. Maybe there is actually something that happened in their lives, something related to family or maybe they had a depressing thought about a bad experience that made them feel bad that day.
The truth is, YOU never know what the other person is going through. Just like you also have a bad mood someday, it may be their day.
Now, even if that isn’t the case, then you can try the following steps to deal with their negativity:
1. DO NOT LECTURE THEM:
Think about this; even the most positive person on the planet may not be able to accept criticism well, then how do you expect the negative person to understand your point of view? They will surely feel that you are trying to blame them rather than getting your point. Thus, do not waste your energy on this
2. RISE ABOVE THE ARGUMENT AND DO NOT ENGAGE IN THEIR NEGATIVITY:
YOU being the positive personality is expected to rise above the argument and be the one who is magnanimous, because the other person will not be able to do it. If you drag yourself to their level then you also will be treated as a fool and then there will be no difference between you two.
3. DO NOT TELL THEM THAT THEY SHOULD NOT BE SAD:
Negative people do have a problem to every solution. According to them, there is no reason to be happy since “everything in their life is wrong”. Unlike the few percentage of us, they are not grateful for the small things in life and thus have a tendency to become sad as soon as something bad happens. Again, it’s not worth your energy my friends.
A CHALLENGE FOR THOSE WHO ARE BRAVE:
Treat every negative situation as a game. Whenever you meet a negative person, try to shift their energy by making your positivity louder. It may mean that you introduce humor in the conversation or anything else. Challenge yourself to be CENTERED and POSITIVE amidst the negativity.
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