Your Perception About the Person Around You Matters , A’lot.
You often think that people don’t understand your view , WHY ?
Whaddup Re-Inventers !
Most of us get into too many heated debates be it with our friends , parents siblings or spouses.
From the tiniest issues we scale up to heated quarrels in a matter of seconds.
Why ?
First of all — Anger
It is probably the first and foremost reason behind any impulsive reaction ,
If someone in front of you speaks out something , if you react you are bound to scale up the matter which surely lead upto heated debates.
Second and Most Important -
“YOUR PERCEPTION ABOUT THE PERSON YOU ARE DEBATING WITH”
The reason why this is so important is that because it ultimately leads to you not accepting the other person’s viewpoint.
So why does a debate actually get heated up ,
First you speak , Then the other does ,
When they speak , you feel they don’t understand you.
When you feel they don’t understand you , you counter what they say .
Again they counter your view and again you have that thought going in your mind again & again that
He or She doesn’t Understand You.
The person you are arguing with possibly thinks the same and that is the reason why you get no decision by the end of your argument.
Because you always THOUGHT you never understood each other
By the end not only you have a huge waste of time but a’lot of stress in your head.
Wouldn’t it have been better , if you could have just been patient at that moment and just calmly listen what the other person spoke to you?
First of all , come what may — completely remove the thought from your mind that the one in front of you doesn’t understand you.
It is the main reason that we don’t accept each other’s viewpoint
Because even before someone speaks you already think that it’s gonna be shitty.
Such a mindset of ours is only harming ourselves , because if you want to Re-Invent Yourself , you need to listen.
And listen with full acceptance .
Full acceptance means to completely understand what your critic is saying and not blatantly deny their facts just because you do not like them.
Your Perception About the person in front of you should be always be positive only then you will be able to understand their viewpoint.
Even then if you feel that they don’t have an inch of an idea of your ideology it’s better to just stay silent and listen.
Because if you do that , there are chances that the other person will realise their mistake with time and even you will not stress yourself.
So if you want to avoid such debates , Just have a positive viewpoint of the one criticising you and you see how you’ll actually find the positives in what they say.
So Be Positive and Understand Positive !
Cheers !!
