Strengthening Personal Boundaries — Professionally & at Home

Our relationships are impacted by boundaries — our own and the boundaries of others. Learn to have a choice and stay safe.

What are Personal Boundaries?

Feeling in Control

Feeling Not in Control

Personal Space

  • Intimate Space — within 1.5 feet (reserved for spouses, partners, lovers, pets, certain family members, and close friends)
  • Personal Space — 1.5 feet to 4 feet (friends and acquaintances)
  • Social Space — 4 to 12 feet (strangers and new acquaintances — typical social interaction)
  • Public Space — beyond 12 feet

Enter Boundaries!

  • to feel safe or stay safe
  • to make the distinction between our own emotions and those of others
  • to trust our own thoughts
  • to feel confident about our own opinions
  • to know how to be appropriately assertive
  • to know how much personal information to share and when
  • to be able to choose if and when to be sexual

Types of Personal Boundaries

Material Boundaries

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Physical Boundaries:

Emotional Boundaries:

The Perfect Place to Mention Narcissists

Emotional Boundaries and Our Comfort with Feelings

What Women Are Up Against

Intellectual Boundaries:

Sexual Boundaries:

Codependency

The Issue of Choice

Boundaries Quick Reference:

  • must be permeable enough to take in and give out necessary information
  • must be impermeable enough to offer protection and separation
  • are our “perimeter” that determines acceptable closeness
  • help us distinguish between our own feelings and those of others
  • help us know what is our responsibility and what is someone else’s
  • give us the ability to take in feedback and either accept it, modify it, or reject it
  • give us the ability to recognize our wants and needs when making decisions
  • help us recognize and respect the boundaries of others
  • keep us from offending or violating the boundaries of others
  • help us take responsibility for our choices and feelings without blaming others
  • give us “common sense” in our social judgment- we recognize danger

Professional and Workplace Boundaries

What’s Your Experience with Professional Boundaries & Choice?

Inequality and Power Differences

Signs of Healthy Boundaries:

  • Improved confidence and self-respect
  • More authentic and honest
  • More accurate perceptions
  • More trust of your own ideas and opinions
  • More effective communication
  • More assertive (not aggressive, but clean, direct communication)
  • Healthier relationships
  • Better judgment (common sense)
  • Feel in control of your life

Now What? How to Develop Healthier Boundaries

Workplace and Professional Life

Resources for Healthier Boundaries

From Leading Authors:

Christine Green coaches individuals and business professionals to strengthen their boundaries and improve other skills.

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Christine Green

Relational & Procedural Skills Coach. Web Design. Unbridled perspectives on almost everything. https://christinegreen.com/coaching/