How many times have you met a guy, showed interest in him, but he really didn’t seem that interested in you?

Many women fall for the mistake of believing that quality men primarily choose women based on their looks, independence and careers―while they are important―they are not as important as women think.

TV, movies and magazines feed women the lie that looks, sex and education trumps everything. This is why so many women are left alone and single.

Below you will find things that capture the attention of quality men.

1. Stand out in your own unique way.

As I said before, contrary to what people think, looks are not what makes you stand out. Looks catch the eye briefly, but it is the uniqueness of the woman that keeps the man intrigued.

Stop trying to look like the celebrity women in magazines. Get rid of your Beyoncé hairdo, or Housewives of New Jersey or Atlanta’s fake bat wing eyelashes, fake nails, or drag queen makeup.

What really attracts a man, in the long term, is natural beauty. The healthy vibrance of your skin, hair, nails…your natural glow. No one can look like you naturally, but when you cake on and wear all that fake stuff, his attraction to you isn’t really real it’s fake―attraction toward the fake part that’s not you.

2. Have an inviting personality.

Many women don’t even focus on having an inviting personality, simply because they think everything should revolve around their own personal happiness and fulfillment. But quality men want to know that you are committed to being the type of woman that can bring him peace and comfort.

Too many women nowadays are very standoffish, argumentative and agitated―due to past drama and hurtful relationships. A man should be able to look at you and just smile at you simply because you’re pleasant to look at.

When a man looks at you, he should see and feel peace, warmth and a welcoming vibe from you. He shouldn’t have to emotionally comfort you at the risk of losing his own peace. Don’t place that burden on him.

Quality men know that they have to build a relationship of trust with you, but never make him pay for what the last man or men did to you. He deserves a clean slate and fair opportunity with you.

A man can’t resist the company of a woman that makes him feel peace by just being in her presence.

Another aspect of having an inviting personality is being friendly to everyone, including mean people. A man looks at how you control your temper in moments of rage; it shows him the level of peace you can give him.

Men are MORE attracted to peace than sex.

3. Don’t be too demanding.

You may say, “Hey wait a minute! But he has to know what I want. My needs are important too.”

And I agree with you, but let’s look at it this way. Men are bombarded with women who approach them that way. And they can’t stand it. But when that rare woman takes the time to not be Drill Sergeant Robertson, she gets his full attention.

And sadly to say, this is the #1 downfall of women. Yes of course you should have standards and requirements, but don’t ever make a man feel like he is obligated to do anything.

That strong-independent-woman mindset chases more men away than draws them. A man never wants to feel like he’s a prisoner to your affection. Let him be the man and pursue you as he’s comfortable.

A patient woman gets the man, not a demanding one.

4. Be fully available for a relationship.

Men don’t find a woman irresistible if she has a flock of men chasing her, nor does he want her if she’s still holding on to her ex. To a quality man, just knowing that the woman he’s interested in is still pondering over the hurtful past with her ex, just shows him that her Ex still has her heart. And a woman who is still furious or hurt by her Ex truly doesn’t have enough space in her heart for another man.

Ladies, you have to be fully ready to take that next step with a man when he’s ready. Typically, if he’s ready and you’re not, you’ve missed your window of opportunity.

You can’t win a man over if he doesn’t feel special. A man wants to know that you are ready to be with him.

Remember being fully available also means that you don’t relive past hurts. You have to make sure your heart is healed. A quality man doesn’t find a perpetually hurt woman irresistible; he does everything in his power to avoid women like that.

Rehearsing past relationship drama shows a man that you are not emotionally available for him.

5. Really be “into” him; total interest.

We are all taught that the man should woo us. He should cater to all of our desires; we should be his everything. But this is a sure way to scare a quality man off. What benefit does he get from being with someone that is self-centered? Why does he have to lose an ounce of peace just to ensure you feel like a princess or a queen? And why would you require that from him?

Contrary to popular belief, men want women to be TRULY interested in what they like and do. Not fake interest, but a true heartfelt interest. He wants you to make him feel kingly. The world is already hard enough for men; he expects his woman to be his most peaceful and enjoyable sanctuary.

You have to take the time to get to know what he likes. Too many women don’t do this. It’s not all about us ladies. A man wants a woman who is interested in his thoughts, goals and desires. Someone he can share his most intimate feelings with.

Men aren’t typically talkers, but if you’re able to tap into him and get him to talk, he’s definitely looking at you as a keeper. Pay attention to what he says; hobbies, favorite foods, travel interests, work issues etc. Figure out, based on what he says, how you can either participate or get involved in his life.

Another aspect of being really into him is allowing him to be him. Don’t force him to be someone he’s not; just so you can be pleased. Trying to get him to do things you like at the expense of what he likes is very selfish. When you push something that disinterests him, it shows you are primarily interested in yourself; and he’s just an accessory.

6. Don’t be the 1st to mention sex.

Even if you are celibate, don’t even mention that you don’t have sex. Get to know him and allow him to bring up the topic first.

This is key. Too many women use sex to lure men in: either by advertising they’re really into having sex; or dangling their celibacy as a carrot in front of the guy to lure him into committing with the hopes of having sex.

When a woman brings up sex first, a guy can guarantee that she’s going to give up the sex, celibate or not.

We ladies make the mistake of thinking in order to be sexy we have to talk about sex or use sexual innuendos, not true at all.

Most men get plenty of sex already, and they are typically looking for that one woman who has enough confidence and self-control to not give up her body easily.

7. Don’t be too available.

You want to be accessible, but not too available. For a man, when a woman is too available, she typically is emotionally needy or has serious trust issues. Women make the mistake of losing themselves in the guy. He’s not a sole purpose in life, not a sole source of entertainment, nor is he a sole source of happiness.

We have to have a life of our own outside of his.

Don’t smother him by making him your-everything. Men like to have a woman that they can court and pursue. He wants to show you that he’s a distinguished gentleman. He can’t do that if you call him nonstop or constantly make bids on his time.

8. Believe you are irresistible.

If you don’t believe it no one else will. You have to have a healthy self-esteem; love the way you look; admire your own mind; and constantly look at the wonderful things about yourself.

Your sense of your own irresistibility resides in knowing your worth through a deep connection with God. You have to know your worth, from the Divine perspective, makes you far more desirable than an ungodly woman.

A good man can’t resist a woman who humbly knows her worth―notice the keyword: HUMBLE.

Too often we look down on ourselves based on not meeting some standard society has set as the benchmark for feminine beauty. Whether it’s our hair, weight, shape, hands, feet or even our education; none of these things should be what our esteem is supported by.

Forget what you don’t have or what you don’t like about yourself. Grab tight to who God says you are. And most importantly: eat healthy, exercise often, and love God.

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