10 signs it’s Genuine vs. Narcissistic Love.

How to tell when a person is genuinely interested and not grooming you for a whirlwind romance.

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Today’s fast-paced, easy-access, quick-fix society has generated a dating dilemma where on the one hand meeting new people is easy, and on the other, meeting the wrong people is easy too.

So, how can we make sure we’re not the next easily accessible, quick-fix.

1.They took their time to get to know you before the “I love you”.

Ask yourself, “How many times has this person fallen in love that quickly?”, “When was their last relationship and how long did it last?”, “Do I know enough about this person and their relationship history?”

2. They’re as open as you are about your thoughts, life, friends, interests, and values.

Some people are reserved, that doesn’t mean they’re not wanting to share more with you, however, it could also mean they’ve got something to hide. Giant gaps in their history and purposely avoiding sharing too much could indicate big secrets.

Are they open with stories about their lives to other people, but not to you? This is a tactic to suggest they value other people's opinions more than yours. Narcissists don’t value anyone's opinion, they only interpret them to suit themselves.